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Hi @Former-Member

I often use the 'report innapprorpriate post' button and always feel like i'm getting someone in trouble too lol... despite knowing that the mods are not punisherators and are always calm and helpful! sigh! i do wonder whether or not it might be possible to change the wording to 'alert moderator to post' or something a little more broad like that.. something a bit more open.. as you say @Former-Member often its not 'inappropriate' it's out of concern that we want to alert a mod.

@CherryBomb @NikNik What do you think?

Thank you @Former-Member

LJ

Hi @Former-Member

Yes you are definitely becoming known as a regular and very valuable member. I can hear how much care and concern you have for your peers and I know it is reciprocated.

in terms of flagging content, yes there is the button that says "report inappropriate content" which sends us an email with the post you are concerned about. Or you could email us directly on team@saneforums.org but as you say with both of these avenues there is a delayed response of up to two days although most of the time we will respond much quicker than that time frame.

Importantly though, as you say it does not suggest urgency as we are not a crisis service, so if someone is in trouble and needs physical help or a check in then we encourage all members to seek that support immediately. Unfortunately as a forum out scope is limited. Thats why we post the crisis support numbers like Lifeline, SucideCall Back and Mens Line so often so people can get that immediate response because we do worry about people and our ability to support is limited to emotional support.

However I completely understand that as a member and a friend it would be so diffiuclt to sit in that space of no knowing and feeling helpless but all I can suggest is that you post to the member (as we do) telling them their pain is heard and they are cared about and encouraging them to seek appropriate immediate support

I hope that makes sense?

Hi @Former-Member. As you know I am not a moderator but just a member and I remember how daunting it can be in the early stages of being active on the forum. I have only been active on here since April this year. I remember feeling a little distressed and there came a time when I was taking on everyone's emotions too. I know @Former-Member went through it too. I just wanted to reassure you that things work out well. When I have been scared for someone here I hit the 'report inappropriate content' to report it. If I'm feeling ok I might engage with them and recommend they talk to lifeline or suicide call back service as they are more able to deal with crisis but even from my own experiences with these services sometimes people are needing something different. I guess the advice I was given and I had some awesome role models here was to look after yourself first on the forums as well. I appreciate you are looking for some more user friendly ways to navigate the forum and seek help when required but I just wanted to you that you are doing a fabulous job contributing on here and that lots of us burn out in the beginning a bit when it seems overwhelming. I hope this helps. Hoping a moderator can help you with what you want too. 💜🤗

In my experiences @Former-Member, when I have not been in a good headspace or worried about a post, someone always seems to step up and know how to approach much better than I could have at that point in time. I'm thinking numerous times here. We will never know what really happens but can only hope for the best. It has taken me a long time and lots of stress to get to a place where I am mostly comfortable and I gain much more than I lose by being on the forum.

I felt that way too @Former-Member

So I was determined to answer all unanswered posts, but then began to let go that responsibility as lots of other people began responding to people in need .. and I knew it was ok to step back.

We cant actually fix anyone's issues but the difference in not being alone whilst working out our best approach to problem solving is huge. Anyway thats my belief and style.