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Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Hello @PeppiPatty, over here my special friend xx

Hello Everyone

Love to hear from others on the forum if you experience this

My hubby has been diagnosed with lots of things and has had MI all his life

do you find things goes ok and i start to feel confident and wanting to go forward and then everytime something always happens to upset it -- sometimes I think is it a controlling thing ?? that he wants to be in control ??

Don`t know if I am making this up , but i have that feeling ,

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@Shaz51

I guess life is about making the decisions based on need and responsibility, going out to others in our lives, while managing central health and home based issues. If there are pets they figure in it, then family, then friends. Anyway thats the way I try to do it.

Look after you and keep in touch with the others, doing what is reasonable, but recognise your own health. I made the mistake early on, of pushing myself too hard.

Yes I do know that Sickness Benefits are not part of Centrelink. I used to assess Unemployment, Sickness and Special Benefits (in another life). It was a different Social Services Act, before Newstart and the DSP. They extended the entitlement and obligation requirements of Newstart, and in some circumstances they request medical certificates, so in that sense it is similar, to the old system. The benefit rates were always calculated the same and less than pensions. You really should not have to do work you cannot manage. It was all so long ago, and I am not up with all the latest rules and regulations. I just hope they give people options, when they need it.

After all the talk of globalisation and inclusion, the real pressure of the coronavirus is making us all confront basic things. NOw it is about responsible social distancing and minimising transmission of the virus. I am not stretched as much as I used to be as a child or as a young mum. I just finished last load of son's wash. I can withdraw and pay attention to my cat.

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That seems very unfair @Shaz51 ... surely there is a replacement or alternative option?

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very true @Appleblossom , @Former-Member

Thank you @Appleblossom

you have raised some good points

hope you have a ok day today xx

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hello @Appleblossom , @Former-Member , @Bunniekins , @outlander , @Mrsjones , @Determined , @Owlunar , @Smc , @Faith-and-Hope , @Jacques

we have done some gardening work yesterday and today

we have done a couple of repairs as well

Mr shaz`s OCD is very high at the moment

he is up and down with the jobs we are not doing , and want we cant do due to what is happening

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I would be tuning out @Shaz51 self care

... the whole separate egos and what is love and care and work and what is codependent enmeshed thingy.

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@Appleblossom i would too my friend

mr shaz needs to do something , even if it is a little bit xx

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@Shaz51

Hopefully some of the tips on the LE side might give the swashbuckler some coping mechanisms.

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@Shaz51

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Checking in @Shaz51

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hello @Former-Member

what a last couple of days

crazy , that is why i have not been on here until this afternoon

glad today seems to be ok but trying to catch up on things which has not been done for days

how are you and mr @Former-Member

could not get the blower fix ( would cost more than a new one )

hello and hugs @outlander , @Appleblossom , @Bunniekins , @Mrsjones , @Determined , @Former-Member

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