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Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Hello @PeppiPatty, over here my special friend xx

Hello Everyone

Love to hear from others on the forum if you experience this

My hubby has been diagnosed with lots of things and has had MI all his life

do you find things goes ok and i start to feel confident and wanting to go forward and then everytime something always happens to upset it -- sometimes I think is it a controlling thing ?? that he wants to be in control ??

Don`t know if I am making this up , but i have that feeling ,

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Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Hi @Shaz51

How is mum travelling now?

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Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

hello @Former-Member , @Appleblossom , @Former-Member , @Owlunar , @Bunniekins , @Determined , @Smc

mum is going ok , she has 4 meals on wheels a week now plus a frozen meal for the weekend

mr shaz had SAD bad today

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Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

anyone know about centerlink over 55 "s

@Former-Member, @Appleblossom , @Former-Member , @Owlunar , @Bunniekins

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Newstart has a bit more leeway than it does for younger applicants. Details here. https://guides.dss.gov.au/guide-social-security-law/3/2/9/130

And the hours required may be subject to a health assessment too. Never any guarantees, but worth asking.

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@Shaz51, have you looked into Carers' payments? You may well qualify. Their criteria are unfortunately still very oriented to physical care rather than psychological care, but the right wording on the forms and referral letters can make the difference.

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Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

@Smc, I have tried carer`s payment for my mum befor and just missed out

but that was before she broke her hip , so i thought i would try again

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Sorry @Shaz51 not much help to you about Centrelink entitlements for over 55s. Yeah I know ... I am 60 so should know. Personally I receive a carers ALLOWANCE for hubby. Never applied for a carers PAYMENT. Different things and different qualifications. If you cannot get the Payment, you possibly may be eligible for the Allowance. For both/either your mum and/or Mr Shaz. My qualifications are slightly different in my personal situation, due to hubbys Vet Affairs Service record. So I dont want to advise incorrectly about things which may not be relevant to the gen population. For example, I qualify early for aged pension as hubby is classified as totally and permanently incapacitated (TPI). So this year I started getting a part aged pension.

Im glad your mum is now receiving more meals on wheels. Some load, and concern, removed from your shoulders. My dad is now getting lunches delivered 7 days per week. Freshly cooked, not frozen, even on weekends, which is nice. Especially given he lives in only a small town. But the meal prep is done at a nursing home, so they have to cook for the residents anyway. Very lucky to have this wonderful service, and even better ... at no cost to him/us.

Sorry to hear Mr Shaz is suffering badly today from SAD. Not good.

Sherry

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Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

hello and hugs @Former-Member

yes "meals on wheels " here is Freshly cooked, at the hospital , so mum gets what the hospital patients get each day -- but pureed due to her reoccuring bowel obstructions

mr shaz hates centrelink so we have been going self employed until we get the aged pension which will be a lonnggg time yet , as I am 55 and mr shaz is 59

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Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Oh okay @Shaz51 , I misunderstood your post where you said about your mum getting 4 meals on wheels and one frozen meal a week. 😀

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Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

@Shaz51, I can perfectly understand Mr. not liking Centrelink. We'd made all sorts of plans so that we could be independant of them, then yeah... Sometimes it's unavoidable, and at least the option is there.

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