Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

@Shaz51

thank you @Exoplanet , how lovely of you xoxo

Hello @Faith-and-Hope , @Determined , @outlander , @Former-Member , @Former-Member

wow , this week is going to be big

seems like we are going to have a big furneral , having to get 2 houses ready for visitors , mum in hospital , she won`t be able to get there

got physio and mental health appt for mr shaz

doctor appt for me , people coming to assess mum`s house , do changes in here sometime

working in between

@Shaz51

It is going to be a big week. As our @Appleblossom would say "gently Bentley"

@Appleblossom "gently Bentley"

very true @Former-Member

how are you and mr darcy going with everything at the moment

sooo confusing and stressful with my mum , she looks ok , but sometimes she wants to go home but then I think she is not ready for home

then today, she said she like me to do things for her when she gets home

I have been to 2 uncles funerals. Extended family often brings up lots of feelings.

lots of SELF care for @Shaz51

Hey @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Exoplanet @Determined

@Shaz51

If Mum is well enough the hospital might give her day leave for the funeral.

Hi @Shaz51

I heard that your uncle died - I am sorry about that - it is always a hard thing when older family members drop off the tree - I have had a lot of that since 2005 and understand how it can be really unhappy and difficut for the whole family - I wish you and your family the best for a hard time with such a large funeral

You do have a lot happening this week - how does that happen? Still - better to make it all happen in the one week than drag it all out - but yes - Gently Bentleigh - it will take a lot out of you

Mr Shaz needs those appointments and I know not likely to attend unless you are there to support him - and you have an appointment too - your health is not good and once again - as your second mum - I am suggesting you take things as easy as you can with all of this happening - it will be difficult

I know you Mum wants you do do things for her when she gets home but I have to say - she does need to accept help from agencies then you can spend time with her when she is ready to come home - it's too much for you to do some much for her and she wants to continue living at home and I understand this - but perhaps put it to here that if agency people come to do the chores then you can sit with her or take her out for a drive and coffee or whatever rather than do her work

I feel as if the only support I can give you is to keep telling you this - and it is hard - this I really understand - and yes - agency support is iffy but she certainly qualifies for it

You need to care for Poor Little Kidney - I get it - I do

Sending hugs

Dec

I care

@Shaz51 thinking of you especially at the moment.

Hey @Shaz51. Playing catchup after being away all weekend. Thinking of you, lots of love.

ohhhhhhh what a day !!!!!!