Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

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@Shaz51 wrote:

ah ha , mum is ok, still in hospital but they have giving mum walking frame and a wheelie to use at home -- But she is not going to use them @Former-Member

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I really understand your mother @Shaz51 - whatever anyone else says she is not prepared to use the wheelie - I so get that

Of course - maybe it will come the time when she has to and I guess if people leave her up to that choice it will be okay for her

But - oh yes - people will be concerned - oh yes - that can be a problem - does she have an alarm system set up for her with a button to access help on a wrist band or necklace? - if she doesn't maybe it's time for her to have that rather than use the wheelie

Aw - time marches on for all of us - mmmmmm yeah

Okay - Shaz - on a better note - I don't know if the birds have noticed the bird bath but they have been eating the bread on the table - and seeing as it got a bit dry on the table in the sun they were belting the slices on the tables - hey birds - soak the bread in the water - hey - the bird bath guys - that will work

Never mind - they managed - and then last night and again this morning after all the bread had gone twice they were squawking at me to put out more - so I put out one of the seed sticks

Well - these were black birds btw - they have gone elsewhere for food - they haven't found the seed stick yet - but with all the noise they made they will attract other birds

That was a good idea Shaz - I am enjoying this

Dec

does she have an alarm system set up for her with a button to access help on a wrist band or necklace?-- no not yet @Owlunar

concerned family have been giving me lots of advice , it is hard to decide what to do , and also what mum will accept at this stage @Former-Member

I was just talking to mr shaz and I am thinking my mum does not tell me everything and also I am wondering how much she is eating too

That was a good idea Shaz - I am enjoying this -- I am soo glad @Owlunar, maybe put a dish of water on the table ?

Good idea again @Shaz51

I have moved the table nearer the bird bath and put a dish of water on top of the table near the seed stick

I have to go out for a while - maybe when I do that the birds will find the water - it's a pretty warm day and of course - there is a bowl of water under the back tap - there always is - for birds, cats and possums and anything else that needs it during the hot weather

Best let you Mum make up her own mind about what she needs Shaz - though suggesting the alarm system might be a good idea - I have one - I needed it once or twice - it was good to have and it doesn't hurt anyone or hamper me at all

But people - d'uh - including me - will have advice - your mum is fighting old age and I understand that one - I am not at all in the mood for old age - eh - and - er um

Yeah - old age is no place for sissies - I think Phyllis Diller said that

Dec

thanks my second mum @Owlunar , I am not looking forward to old age either and I have the feeling I will be just like my mum

I love your messages , so keep writting xxxx

all mum`s birds are sitting around for a feed , mum loves feeding them

We have four bird baths + a half wine barrel that our local birds love. I suspect they avail thdmselves of the chooks water too. Even had a goshawk visit one. It has been a bit warm so I probably need to go and refill them. Having the water keeps the birds in the garden.

@Owlunar my friend calls my mum a 'tough old broad'. Mum's mind is sharp but her body let's her down. She is fighting succumbment to old age every step of the way and I would not expect anything less 😀.

Hi @Former-Member

I've been in the habit of putting bowls of water out for the local wild-life for years but because I have had a cat it might have kept some away - but she's gone now so I have a bigger interest in the birds

I have had birds with babies before the Body Corporate insisted a lot of my vines be cut back because of the damage they were doing to the next door's property - but I had a pair of ring-necked doves with a nest they left safe but when the babies started falling out of the nest I would put them back and somehow the babies thought I was safe - so that was okay

And such fun when they got bigger and started following me about when I was outside in the drive - the babies right behind me and the parent birds behind them - no cat around then

And - I get your mother too - I call myself a "tough old bird" and not giving up easily - I life alone and like it that way - My Aged Care called me "Socially Isolated" and I don't feel that way at all. If I was stuck in some place where people were organised into whatever they get organised into I would probably be called "anti-social"

I like my life the way it is - but the years keep passing

Dec

my mum a 'tough old broad'. Mum's mind is sharp but her body let's her down. She is fighting succumbment to old age every step of the way and I would not expect anything less 😀.

same here @Former-Member

How is Mum today @Shaz51?

mum is anoyed today but is ok @Former-Member

mum says she is not ready to live in the hospital yet @Former-Member

mr shaz needed a couple of of solutions orangized by me today