Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Hello @Determined, @Former-Member, @outlander, @Faith-and-Hope, @Adge

sending you hugs

well D1 had her birthday

my uncle had his 87th birthday in hospital

Mum is back in hospital today

I have a blood specialist appt tomorrow

Hugs to you too @Shaz51 You seem to have so much to deal with.

Adge

thank you @Adge , how are you today

got a busy day tomorrow , tired

A busy day tomorrow @Shaz51 Yes me too, although a bit less than most Mondays.

I am very very tired, I have been all weekend.

I did do my yoga class yesterday, & 2 necessary shopping trips - not much else.

Adge

how are you going with your hernias @Adge

my yoga class yesterday, & 2 necessary shopping trips-- good that you did that

my mum has fallen 3 times this week, soo hard to see her soo frail @Adge, @Determined, @Former-Member, @outlander, @Faith-and-Hope

Thanks @Shaz51 I don't want to miss my yoga classes, even when I'm feeling terrible.

I have to go shopping, or else there's nothing to eat etc.

I got a shock a few days ago, when I phoned the hospital - because they never sent the appointment letter they promised.

They told me that I have been put onto the "low-priority" (category 3) list - because my GP did not write the seriousness (or urgency) of the hernias on the Referral Form (they said).

I cannot wait over 12 months for surgery, as they said I would have to - the GP said weeks ago that I would have to go to emergency (if it got worse).

Yet I don't know how to be considered for "high priority".

I asked the Dr's Rececption to send my Surgery Reports (3 Bowel surgeries) to the hospital.

I don't know if that will make any difference.

Adge

Yes that would be very distressing @Shaz51

Adge

@Adge, I almost don't like passing on this advice because it sounds desperate... but....

I knew someone who was waiting for abdominal surgery, and often in considerable pain. She was on the waiting list, so she set her teeth, took painkillers and waited it out. She found out later that if she had fronted up to the emergency department when the pain was severe, it would have bumped her up on the waiting list. Instead, she ended up becoming resistant to the painkillers from taking them for so long, and now they're less effective on her than they would have been.

So, if you're having a bad pain day, turn up at ED and let them know. Squeaky wheels and all that. It shouldn't be that way, but if you need help, you need help.

Thanks @Smc I know you're right.

It's just that I've taken several people to A&E - we've waited 5 hours, then been sent away without them being treated (just sent home).

So I don't want to have to use A&E as my only backup strategy - because they might not operate.

Adge