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Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Shaz51Senior Contributor10 Dec 2016, 11:56 am AEDT

Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Hello @PeppiPatty, over here my special friend xx

Hello Everyone

Love to hear from others on the forum if you experience this

My hubby has been diagnosed with lots of things and has had MI all his life

do you find things goes ok and i start to feel confident and wanting to go forward and then everytime something always happens to upset it -- sometimes I think is it a controlling thing ?? that he wants to be in control ??

Don`t know if I am making this up , but i have that feeling ,

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MaryjuneSenior Contributor13 Mar 2017, 11:22 pm AEDT

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hi @Determined and everyone.. sorry for the late reply been busy cleaning the house..it's really a pigsty when I came home..he really plummeted when I left last time..so slowly cleaning up and he is helping too but he slept for almost the whole day probably of his meds. kinda worried too coz he's been having nightmares and he said it's very violent. I wonder if his meds working..shouldn't it make him less restless ??

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DeterminedSenior Contributor14 Mar 2017, 8:46 am AEDT

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Morning @Former-Member
Sorry to hear that Mr Darcy is not doing so well at the moment.
Trust you are managing ok? Will be praying for you both.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor14 Mar 2017, 8:51 am AEDT

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Hi @Maryjune
Trusting things pick up for you both soon.

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DeterminedSenior Contributor14 Mar 2017, 8:59 am AEDT

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Hi @Shaz51
How are you and Mr shaz today?
It must have been hard going back to work after such a big weekend.
Trust the blood tests go ok.

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Unknown userMember14 Mar 2017, 9:10 am AEDT

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Hey @Determined

Hope you have s good week. Do you start with your support person this week?

Thankfully I have good supports in place so most of my stresses are short lived and I bounce back. Have a couple of understanding friends who give me straight answers and offer practical coping solutions.

Have the follow up meeting today with the clinical director. I will go into this meeting praying that if God can shut the lions mouths he can certainly shut mine, however I think there are a couple of things that need to be understood and I need to be able to ask these things in a respectful manner.

Darcy

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DeterminedSenior Contributor14 Mar 2017, 2:52 pm AEDT

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Hi @Former-Member

Trusting your meeting goes well for you today and you get the results and answers that you need.

I have my first appointment with the support person next week so looking forward to seeing how that goes. This meeting will be to access what service is able to be offered to me, when I spoke to the lady on the phone she expressed concern about me having to travel (its 1hr + drive) so I'm not sure if that translates to a reluctance to provide a service at all? (There is nothing locally other than dv support service). I don't see the distance as an issue as I have to go down regularly anyway.

Meeting with the uni councillor again this week to discuss balancing time commitments. (Particularly study load). While things are going well I can manage fine its when things go pair shaped that I struggle to function so getting some strategies in place to manage this. (a case of me getting adequate supports in place so I can manage).

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Unknown userMember14 Mar 2017, 7:00 pm AEDT

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Hi @Determined

Meeting went OK thanks. Only really have one sticking point which I don't think we will ever agree on but they are taking my demand of training in carer communication seriously.

On that note things went a bit better with his pdoc who is good on validation but sometimes poor on information. I think I have worked out how to ask her things now.

Sorry, got your support appt mixed up, my experience is that support agencies are aware of the time and expense of travel and do not want to add to carer burden in these matters. I really appreciated that the counseling I got from Carers Aust was over the phone with the exception of the first session which was person to person.

It will be good to have a documented plan in place for uni in case of relapse, something you can control.

Take care Bro

Darcy

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Unknown userMember14 Mar 2017, 7:59 pm AEDT

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Hi @Maryjune

All medications in Australia have a CMI. This is a consumer medicine information sheet. Among other information it lists side effects that could occur. If you google the name of the medication followed by cmi you can look this up. The ebs.tga.gov.au website is the official site. You can also ask the chemist to give you a print out. If your partner is on Centrelink, as long as the meds are pbs, he will get them at a low price (I think about $6.50 per script).

It is important to remember that psych medications are not a cure. They provide relief from the debilitating symptoms. Some have a lot of side effects but it is important to remember that without treatment the outcomes for some patients can be very poor especially if they self medicate with drugs and alcohol.

It takes more than medication for a patient to live well in spite of a mental illness.

Supporting someone with a major psychiatric illness takes a lot of resilience and it is almost impossible to do it on your own. In Australia there are free support services for both patients and carers of those with mental health issues and I urge you to access the support these providers give. They can provide you with education and moral support which has shown to lead to better outcomes for the patients.

Darcy

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Unknown userMember14 Mar 2017, 10:28 pm AEDT

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PS @Maryjune

The cmi lists serious side effects and will advise if you need to seek urgent medical advice.

Darcy

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Anony18Senior Contributor15 Mar 2017, 12:36 am AEDT

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Hi @Maryjune. Agree with @Former-Member there with looking at cmi to get more information. I know my partner had a change in meds last year and he said the meds made him more drowsy. He needed it to try to help him sleep as he struggled. Like any meds there may be some side effects so research it to understand. By understanding, it will help understanding the impact it has on your partner and therefore the relationship, ie physical intimacy wise.

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