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Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Shaz51Senior Contributor10 Dec 2016, 11:56 am AEDT

Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

Hello @PeppiPatty, over here my special friend xx

Hello Everyone

Love to hear from others on the forum if you experience this

My hubby has been diagnosed with lots of things and has had MI all his life

do you find things goes ok and i start to feel confident and wanting to go forward and then everytime something always happens to upset it -- sometimes I think is it a controlling thing ?? that he wants to be in control ??

Don`t know if I am making this up , but i have that feeling ,

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Shaz51Senior Contributor19 May 2017, 3:12 pm AEST

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Hello @Faith-and-Hope, @Former-Member, @Former-Member, @soul, @Determined

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Unknown userMember19 May 2017, 4:54 pm AEST

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@Shaz51 shazzle dazzle sounding good is this your real bird?? duh is this your pet I mean?

@Former-Member hmm couldnt think of anything snappy to rhyme with your name.....daredevil darcy??

how is Mr Darcy today? showing any small signs of improvement yet? and just as importantly how are your Mrs Darcy, not worn out I hope.

@Faith-and-Hope giving up, nope...WH is behaving? learning?

@Determined I hope that mrs determined is settling and feeling more at peace soon. hoping that will also bring for you a window of self care and special time as a family.

mohill is moving moving mohill off to see my large family overseas very soon now. will look for far away page is that on this side?

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Shaz51Senior Contributor19 May 2017, 4:57 pm AEST

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shazzle dazzle sounding good is this your real bird?? duh is this your pet I mean? -- yes @Former-Member, the thing is that she still laids eggs but she pushes the eggs out of her cage on to the floor xxx

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Unknown userMember19 May 2017, 5:06 pm AEST

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@Shaz51

ahh bless her perhaps she is trying to push them towards you, her gift to you.

what is her name?

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Shaz51Senior Contributor19 May 2017, 5:10 pm AEST

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Ohhh @Former-Member, the children called her peachy ,

ha ha the kids love her xx

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Unknown userMember19 May 2017, 5:12 pm AEST

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@Former-Member enjoy ...

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Unknown userMember19 May 2017, 5:15 pm AEST

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@Former-Member

i will thank you now but I cant see it until tomorrow I think. It seems to take a long time might be something to do with the security on our pc.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor19 May 2017, 5:28 pm AEST

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Hi @Former-Member .... 💕

WH is away .... has taken S2 with him over east ..... S2 has become unwell and has been pulled from uni .... now WH is in a panic and trying to fix him by stepping up his micro-management of him ..... :face_with_rolling_eyes: sigh ..... psychiatrist apt coming up next week for them both to attend for S2 .....

I am trying to stay switched off to it cos I can't do anything anyway ..... WH and mil have decided this is my fault on the basis of weak parenting ..... :face_with_rolling_eyes::face_with_rolling_eyes::face_with_rolling_eyes: .... and both are somewhat hostile towards me (WH and mil that is).

So ..... not what I would refer into as either behaving or learning ..... actually .....

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Unknown userMember19 May 2017, 5:37 pm AEST

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@Faith-and-Hope

oh good grief

son 2 was standing up to WH when I last read of what was happening.

did son 2 go willingly?

so back next week for psychiatrist appointment. Is he up to scratch with the mind game stuff?

none of your family need that and has mil moved in with you now? I know she went away on holidays with you all.

Thank goodness you have your painting.

Does WH or mil have a precious vintage car that you could do a paint job on while they are away?

all jokes aside, family conference without WH and mil?? you must be worn out. sending you a big hug and love.

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor19 May 2017, 5:50 pm AEST

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Yeah ..... all really complex @Former-Member. No, mil hasn't moved in with us, but WH is as good as moved in with her .... jogs to her house and back twice a day and eats two of his meals there ..... it's an enmeshed situation that is just a progressive part of his undiagnosed mi issues and not something I can do anything about. They are both unwell, and all I can do is keep trying to hold the fort together here for now.

S2 has burnt out and dropped his bundle. He is not wanting to blame his dad and it's turned onwards as self-blame, mirroring WH's accusations towards him about being lazy and incompetent (designed to make him step up ..... mil's parenting ideas) like a self-fulfilling prophesy .... but WH is swinging between "good cop" (aka Father Christmas) and "bad cop" (sl*dge h*mmer) ....

I have to leave it to the psych to work it out cos any time I speak up it is making things worse. Mil has succeeded in invalidating me at this point in time, but that won't last. The wheels are starting to fall off this thing as I had been prepped that they would.

Hard to walk through .... but so glad to have the forums and friends irl .....

Battening down the hatches and trying to just stay calm .... and walking .... and painting .....

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