APPROACHING SURE?

I am so glad to see you too @Former-Member. I will give you your space though but I need to say how glad I am you are ok. Around if you want but ok if you need space too. Hugs 💜🤗

I am as okay as a really crazy zany lady will be.

My son and I had a cosy comfortablility .. no huge highs .. a bit lazy and self indulgent .. no bad vibes .. a couple of hugs and few kisses .. his father is coming to pick him up tomorrow

a friend has just dropped around .. a late Santa .. and they are nattering ..

Kids can work through the experience of divorce .. and the wounds mothers carry can heal too.

This is R & R time for you. The eternal feminine will help you .. it is alive and well here.

i'm glad that you and son had a good day, or a comfortable day. it sounds like he is doing really well, which comes down so much to you.

ive missed mine so much, especially today. i hope they are ok.

lj

@Former-Member

Hi @Appleblossom....

Sorry I missed your thread - just went through & read it all....

Don't know how you keep trying to engage socially...

I have become very gaurded - recent events makes that even more important for me.....

I think I know what you mean about getting spoken over?? - so many people do it to me - I am a listener, but feeling heard is important to me... when I had anorexia, then diagnosed EDNOS it always felt like a silent scream - I wrote a poem when I was 15 called the silent scream... I give up & think obviously what I have to say is not important...

As always I don't feel like I have anyhing to offer...

But read it all, trying to understand & care,

Ahimsa - Namaste,

Anna

Hello @Former-Member xx i have been wondering where you were my friend xx

Hello @Appleblossom, @esprit, @Former-Member, @Former-Member , how are you today ??

Thank you @esprit

swimming suits me .. my surfing days are over .. 'cept the net .. I will go back and do laps again one day .. but not just yet.

I am ok @Shaz51 head pain and bit strained and rattled but have 2 nights in house to myself which will be lovely. Hope you are recovering.

Dear @Former-Member I think you have a lot to offer .. that the world needs more people who are careful of their footprint and impact. Your vulnerability is high but there is strength also .. because you did not follow the crowd .. and made personal choices .. I dont know more because your generation is also a bit of a mystery to me .. but true community involves multiple generations .. and some attempt to understand the others. I appreciate that you have come off your thread to look at this one.

Maybe being heard and respected for what you believe .. means finding like-minded people... and finding some form of armour to protect you .. but not too complete to prevent you from being in the world and others from seeing you. ..permeable .. for the good stuff .. but blocking the bad .. if that makes sense.

I dont know why I keep trying but I do.

I feel it is my destiny I guess .. more than any one romantic relationship .. if I give up .. then both my son & I are isolated .. so its partly the mum in me .. but also .. personal to me alone ..because I had such a weirdly different childhood .. I have unusual insights .. I can feel safe in a large group institution ... I know what it is like to be in many different family constellations .. I also find I get signs .. that help me believe it all has some meaning... nothing mindblowing .. but the positives and negatives are oddly balanced .. and I am a science nerd.

As in Christmas Eve was a fantastic night til it flipped in a flash .. one moment ... kind of like .. "go" where a whole line can swap sides in one turn.

I also do believe in social learning models .. but far more in a spectrum manner than .. simple social skills instruction ...?? Good manners got me in and out of trouble .. swearing fits in with certain groups and not others .. no one size fits all ..

So I am beginning to get that this forum.. is social learning ... for more than just me .. all us adults learning together .. not just facts & information .. but getting along ..

Glad you are still here .. popping in whenever

I was very sad when I read your 'Paranoid" post .. but it also made me feel very close to my dad .. as my mind skipped straiht to him .. that is what he suffered a lot with .. but he was also weirdly social ... people are paradoxes .. and often contain opposites ... its what to do with it ..

Bye for now.

A

Hope you feel better soon @Appleblossom

I am ok xx

ate too much, even though I tried not too but we have been given soo much stuff in the last few days

Lots of socializing in the last two days , I am tired

Hubby is worn out , so i think it is time to take it easy now

Saw tears in my MIL`s eyes a few times during the day when other people would say something about dad( MY FIl who died this year ), which was hard

when we dropped my MIL off at her place , we had a big hug together which brought tears to my hubby`s eyes

I brought my mum a CD/ tape/ radio player for christmas and she played her tapes until 11-30pm last night -- ha ha

went to boxing day lunch with my family , my aunty and uncle came too , they have 8 foster children they look after

our daughter went great with her first christmas breakfast, but shehas slept all day today , the poor darling , gave her a hug and told her i was proud of her

my SIL loves to tell you want you should do , she was not too bad yesterday xx

sorry @Appleblossom, I am going on a bit xx