Negative self talk

Hey @RoseGeranium ,

Have you ever done any work in terms of reframing or narrative therapy? I found this helpful in terms of negative self talk. So it's not about punishing self for thinking negative thoughts, but to practice looking at it from another perspective. Takes a lot of practice though.

Do a bit of a search and I'd be interested to hear what you think.

Thank you, that is actually really helpful information. I've already started some reading and have started to feel better so that I can see that this is happening to me but not because I am bad or any of the other negative things I have tended to think about myself lately.

I found some free resources while I was there:

https://positivepsychology.com/narrative-therapy/

I'll keep on going with it.

Thank you!

Rose.

Speaking from my own personal experience, this doesn’t replace advice from a professional but what I have done for myself when I get stuck into ,my negative self talk, I try to find a quiet spot at home it’s anywhere your not distracted, at work I usually sneak to the restroom. I do a quick meditation and focus on my breathing to calm my mind. Just doing this exercise often can go far for anxiety and self doubt I know you stated you don’t like affirmations, but there are different ways to do that instead of just saying positive things to yourself I highly recommend you research different ways to do that. Another thing you could do is when your at home and you start to doubt yourself go out for a walk or even head to a gym exercise and fresh air does wonders for clearing your head. Hope this helps you.

Welcome to the forums @Shiki You post was very helpful. I find that really works when I'm on the verge of panic or even if I just want to calm myself down so I don't get upset with people.

@RoseGeranium , I found reframing super helpful. Come to think of it, I might do some more research and start a thread to practice reframing. I've done it in a few threads with members, but I haven't make a specific thread for it.

And yes, you are right. Your thoughts don't make you 'good' or 'bad' because thoughts are purely thoughts. It's what we do with the thoughts that matters.

@tyme @Thank you for your kind words, J think a thread of Re-framing would be a fantastic idea I would be keen to read your ideas and help contribute.

@RoseGeranium Thank you for sharing the link.

My pleasure!

I also was having a bad moment just now so I laid down and imagined my negative thoughts as thousands of tiny people evacuating a village from around my heart. I would breathe in positivity then breathe out so that these thousands of tiny people were like each individual negative thought about myself evacuating a village. It was better when I laid down on the ground to do it. No harm came to the tiny, imaginary people, but I felt a distinct relief when I opened my eyes. Going off into another room is a great idea and I think this will add to it.

I will add that to the narrative therapy.

Thanks!

Rose.

Thanks @Gwynn!