ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
Does anyone want to talk
Contact my sister because I’m a nice person and it’s Christmas sees my message doesn’t respond
call my brother doesn’t answer the phone
Sorry for trying to be nice forget I even tried
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Does anyone want to talk
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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and then the big kid is riding his bike at full speed down the hill in the front of me and I just ah @RiverSeal but I think we need to get out for a bit
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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Just read about your sister buddy - that is so hard for you @ArraDreaming
My hope is that she has been able to open up to Mrs a bit on the drive home - mother to mother kinda thing. No doubt your lovely wife would be so caring and thoughtful so hoping that also helps your sister. I know how much you love your family (sister included) but there is also only so much you can do. That, of course, will not take away the worrying for you (either as a brother or a parent) but it is really up to your sister to get things together for her baby and herself. If at any stage you do not feel she is able to look after either herself or more importantly, her baby, then do what you need to do to keep everyone safe. With your history growing up I know how very hard it would be to takes steps to make sure everyone is safe but making sure everyone is safe is the important thing.
What I do know is that you are an amazing person who will go to the ends of the earth for those you love - just make sure you give some of that love to yourself as well. Sending you a big hug my friend ❤️
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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I know, it’s a real tough one @Zoe7 @RiverSeal I have spent my life looking after her and I just, I don’t know 🤷🏾
I don’t know what to do anymore 🤦🏽
I don’t know what to do anymore 🤦🏽
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RiverSealModerator
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It sounds like you have done a lot over the years @ArraDreaming. Sometimes people need to learn to help themselves and you can't be expected to be there all the time. It's ok to not know too and we don't always have an answer for everything. RiverSeal
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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pretty special seeing her as mum you know, full circle and all that, baby cute too.
But yeah, I have spent a lot of time over the years helping her so she has a good future, shes got it in her but has get her priorities right, some of it isn’t her fault I do get that, but she just all over the place right now… if I had the money to get a bond for her and get her out of her living situation I would. But right now even paying our rent is hard. We gave her some things that were going to the op shop for the baby so hopefully that just helps a little bit.
I better not say too much it’s not fair on her @RiverSeal @Zoe7
But yeah, I have spent a lot of time over the years helping her so she has a good future, shes got it in her but has get her priorities right, some of it isn’t her fault I do get that, but she just all over the place right now… if I had the money to get a bond for her and get her out of her living situation I would. But right now even paying our rent is hard. We gave her some things that were going to the op shop for the baby so hopefully that just helps a little bit.
I better not say too much it’s not fair on her @RiverSeal @Zoe7
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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It just really scares me… sorry to keep coming back to this and tagging you @RiverSeal I just keep thinking of things to say
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RiverSealModerator
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Do you want to talk about what scares you about it @ArraDreaming? It's ok to be scared and it often happens when we don't feel in control or things are unfamiliar. It's ok to want to talk about it and that's what we are here for! RiverSeal
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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I just feel scared because I don’t know what’s going on i don’t know that both of them are ok and I don’t like the situation she’s in @RiverSeal I’m scared about her capacity to look after the baby
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RiverSealModerator
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They are all genuine reasons for being scared @ArraDreaming and it says a lot about your character that you care deeply enough about both of them. She is ultimately responsible for both of them, and you can support them when you can but it's up to your sister. Focusing on what you can control vs what you can't control may help settle your fears about them both. Do you know about this concept already? I think I maybe mentioned it the other day about when you were looking for a job. RiverSeal
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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Yeah and you know my brain is full already with all of the things I have to do to care for my own family, just got a new job, all that kind of thing… sometimes I just don’t want to get involved with what my siblings bring, this is constant, there is forever an issue with one of them at least always, I wonder how they manage to function in this world sometimes and more often then not I actually don’t want to know… I refuse to interact with 90% of my siblings for this very reason, my sister is the only one I have time for, but sometimes I just think please figure it out because I can’t fix this for you @RiverSeal
