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Big Emotions

Big Emotions

Hi all,

It's JPEG1998 again.

I am feeling incredibly overwhelmed by the fact that I am experiencing some pretty BIG EMOTIONS surrounding a particular individual that I have taken a serious liking towards. Put simply, I have a crush on them. I first came across them* last year (I refuse to share their pronouns on here in fear of being discovered by them or someone they know. All you need to know is that I personally am heterosexual). I have seen them on a number of occasions and we have made some small talk with one another, despite not really knowing each other that well. I think they're just being polite though, and that they do not feel the same ay towards me. But, I found them on social media and they don't appear to be in a relationship, judging by the photos that I have seen. I don't condone stalking so I have made a pledge to myself and my friends that I will not stalk them on social media again. I think this person in particular sexy and I want to go out on a date with them. The only problem I have is that I have an extreme fear of being rejected by them. They've looked at me once and then looked away when I caught them.

I'm sorry. I don't really know what else to comment on here. Some advice would be highly appreciated!

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Hey @Jynx ,

I'll try and email a peer support worker now 🙂

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Good on you @JPEG1998

We will wait to hear how that goes for you!

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@Jynx

Email has now been sent to the correct address 🙂

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Hey @Jynx and @tyme ,

Bumped into them yesterday, but they didn't see me.

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Hey @JPEG1998 ,

What are your next steps? I'm interested to hear 🙂

Hope you are okay.

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Hey @JPEG1998

Ach, missed like ships in the night! Ahh well, next time eh?

How've been otherwise?

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@tyme @Jynx

I've got a peer support appointment with ReachOut soon, so I'll discuss this further with the counsellor 🙂

I feel OK at the moment. But I am feeling a bit uncomfortable with complimenting them on their smile. I really think that I should do it, but what if other people are around, and what if he doesn't appreciate it? 😞

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Super! I'm glad you can speak to someone from ReachOut! @JPEG1998 All the best with it. Have you written anything down that you want to talk about?

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Yes indeed, what if those things happen @JPEG1998? Sometimes with anxiety, I find it helpful to follow it all the way to its conclusion.

What if people are judging me?

Then perhaps they won't like me, and maybe we wouldn't end up as friends. It would probably hurt. And then I would eventually heal from that hurt and move on.

What if I get rejected?

Again, it would probably hurt a lot. But I've survived every single time I've been rejected in the past, so I can do it again.

Oversimplified a bit but can help to question your anxiety and decide whether the thing it is trying to protect us from is really as bad as it makes it out to be. If people judge us and reject us, quite simply they were never our people to begin with, and thus it is not really a loss, because we can then focus on finding the people who accept us for who we are.

Maybe this will help you like it helped me:

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@Jynx @tyme

That's awesome! I love the quote 🙂

Thank You so much for your words of wisdom; they have really helped make me feel calmer about the whole situation ❤️

Also, guess what? I saw them (again) today! From memory, I think they may have given me a little smirk? But, they definitely kept trying to look at me, but kept looking away (without smiling this time) 🙂

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