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Husband with Schizoaffective Disorder

Unknown userMember03 Dec 2016, 7:48 pm AEDT

Husband with Schizoaffective Disorder

My husband of 9 years has Schizoaffective Disorder - Bi-Polar Type. When i met him he was diagonised with Bi-Polar but that changed on a visit to hospital a few years back. The change of diagonis seems to fit him well. He is a very supported person and is well functing in this condition. But can always improve in some areas. The main area that affects me is his reliance on me and his over concern of me (He has a high level of Paranoia about safety). For the last two years we have also worked in the same place. Me full time and him part-time because he has to sleep alot of the time to stay resonably well. With a recent change of hours for me i wont be at the work place as much in the same time frame as him, which then will free up some time to my self (i have needed this for a long time). He is very good with taking medications and seeing specialists (which im so thankful for).

How do other people deal with the reliance placed on them?

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Unknown userMember03 Dec 2016, 8:16 pm AEDT

Re: Husband with Schizoaffective Disorder

Hi Sally07
I found this Qld carer website really helpful in relation to the matters you have raised.
http://mhr4c.com.au
Darcy

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JellyBeanContributor04 Dec 2016, 4:20 pm AEDT

Re: Husband with Schizoaffective Disorder

Hi @Former-Member,

Even when a loved one is functioning and managing their mental health well, being a partner or carer can be exhausting and not always leave enough space for your own needs.

I'm not sure if you have managed to have a look around the forum but there are some good threads such as here where @Former-Member and @Shaz51 have made some good posts.

Taking time out for yourself to look after your own physical and mental health is really important as the reliance can feel 'heavier' when your own needs are undernourished.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor04 Dec 2016, 6:17 pm AEDT

Re: Husband with Schizoaffective Disorder

Hello @Former-Member xx

how are you today ??

Living with a partner with schizoeffective disorder

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Unknown userMember05 Dec 2016, 6:13 pm AEDT

Re: Husband with Schizoaffective Disorder

Going alright thanks Shaz51. Husband a bit lacking sleep in this hot weather. So a bit over emotional.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor05 Dec 2016, 6:38 pm AEDT

Re: Husband with Schizoaffective Disorder

Hello @Former-Member xx

sending you hugs my friend

my hubby is very very tired and exhausted today , he said it is the tablets and I say it is the Heat

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor05 Dec 2016, 8:34 pm AEDT

Re: Husband with Schizoaffective Disorder

Yes @Former-Member & @Shaz51 there is usually a reason for exhaustion and feeling over-emotional .. even if we are not exactly clear what it might be.

Take care of yourselves and your partners.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor05 Dec 2016, 8:39 pm AEDT

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Thank you @Appleblossom

I agree , I think it is because of the big weekend , my hubby cant take too much but then today he said he was worried about his children and the 2 weeks holiday that we are going to take over christmas xx

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Unknown userMember05 Dec 2016, 8:54 pm AEDT

Re: Husband with Schizoaffective Disorder

He tends to sleep better in the cooler weather. Also when it's not as light. I find he doesn't sleep as deaply on full moons when there isn't cloud cover.
Feeling pretty exhausted myself from the heat. Haven't got much planned in the way of hoildays until next year but still can be pretty full on this time of year.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor05 Dec 2016, 9:03 pm AEDT

Re: Husband with Schizoaffective Disorder

Hubby is the same here with sleep @Former-Member

we won`t be going anywhere for our Holiday, staying home , just not working

we are self employed because of hubby`s MI

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Unknown userMember05 Dec 2016, 10:08 pm AEDT

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I find sleep is the main key to him staying on top of things. He has to sleep about 11 hours each day to get enough. Which seems a lot but it seems to work @Shaz51
We like cruising hoildays because he can sleep aslong as needed, nap in the afternoons and not have to worry about driving long distances, also dont have to worry about checkout timeframes. We have one planned for next year to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary. Don't know when we will be able to afford the next but that's ok, we can just save and see what works.

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