Tabaluga's

Hi @DownMoreThanUp

I've tried almost everything that you so kindly suggested.

I have to make my bed and bedroom my friend.

How? I'm not sure!

I really think that positivity is the answer 😌

Thanks for your thoughts and understanding.

Taali 💜

OMG 😲 @ENELKI you've got to be kidding me!

Did you meet him?

Another beautiful but troubled soul ✨️

Taali 💜

@TAB hey tabby, at dr to get scripts. Very tired. Didn't sleep well last night ha. Hope gym went well.

I think everyone here today could use a laugh 😃

So okay okay I know, Right!?

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and all who pass by here, Taali 💜

@Taali

i found when i was in a similar situation, only hugging yourself forgiveness struggling, the bed room for giving you that bad feeling, and the person or persons who might have made that so or contributed ot that including ourselves. And to keep doing that until safety comes back again.

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True enough improvements our times struggled can look hopeless, yet it is about unlearning what we have been so painfully taught by our trauma, or toxic relationships lived.

And yes it is really hard, especially at night awake, for we cannot see the outcome, but we know that when we agree to our negative feelings they become harder to deal with.

So it is about taking the negativity away and adding the good that is missing ourself for others don't want to help, or keep taken it back their on struggles lived.

So indeed it is bloody hard.

Counselling helped me to understand this, but in the end it is the applying and knowing what we want to do and help ourself as loving and kindly as possible to shake of those bad feelings that keep us awake by adding good ones. i found uplifting yet calming music, without beat, helped me a lot when i keep waking up from trauma memories and or nightmares and become to scared to sleep. Some nights that is impossible other nights it works better.

When my wife still loved me, she was excellent at regulating me, yet when she left i was a mess without her and totally collapsed. But it is getting easier now and i'm beginning to get better sleeps again.

The more i say goodbye to my loved ones not loving in my heart and mind without anger, but acceptance both parties and seeing their side, things begin to improve for me. So now i get better at regulating my own states.

It all makes a lot of sense to me how come things have been as they are. So sad about that fro both of us. My wife tried so hard, and so did i, and it still didn't work out.

i pray one day the truth of our love gets us back together again, and my wife and children will reconcile, by dealing with their hurts, so as a family we can get back in harmony and love, but as things are now that is years off if ever Down Here.

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Thanks understanding.

@TAB hey TAB hope you are having a great day. is stunning day here weather wise. can't complain.

@Taali i love to hear from you but please take me off the enormous group posts. they are clogging up my notifications and i am missing out on posts from other members. thanks. bunnie

I hear you @DownMoreThanUp

I really hope you can find peace and happiness 😊

You certainly deserve it!

I don't know much about your family, but I do know that they are worse off for ostracising you!

For that I pity both you and them.

Take care dear friend 🧡

@Taali

Hey does anyone know how to access the Nightshift thread?

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and all here today. Taaliu 💜

Sure @Bunniekins

Taali 💜 💜

Hope you get some rest @Meowmy

Hot here I'm stuffed. Just got home.