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creative_writerSenior Contributor
Sometimes I feel like I’m on top of things and don’t feel like my trauma defines me and I don’t feel so ashamed and scared. Other times I want to hide from the world and feel like a **** (I’m not going to say the word here since I don’t want to trigger anyone) 😭, I feel so ashamed that I don’t want people to know
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Yes it is @creative_writer way too many people needing help and not being able to find it in the current system.
I hope your migraine has gone and you are resting up today. Good that you could get out to see your Dad on his birthday but I am sure it was a hard day not feeling well. Hugs Hon ❤️
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
I get that so much @creative_writer My childhood up to early adulthood was the same - protecting my sister and Mum and keeping the worst of things from them. I would do it again in a heartbeat but we shouldn't have to hey 😢
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
I get it @creative_writer Unfortunately we often put everyone else in front of ourselves and never really give ourselves the support we need. I also get the 'better off alone'. We are told so many times that we need to be around people so much but not everyone needs or wants that. ....and yes trust is a major component of that but that still does not mean we want to be around others all the time.
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
Not even a little bit @creative_writer, not from where I'm sitting. What's happening for you at the moment that's got you asking this? Here to listen hun 💜
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creative_writerSenior Contributor
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JynxModerator
@creative_writer Mm it would be incredibly exhausting, and I can understand why it's getting you down. Something to think about though is that each time you do experience this, you will get a little bit better at managing, self-soothing, and deepening your understanding of yourself.
Do you get aftercare/support for triggering calls? Also could be something to work on with a trauma psych.
And migraines wouldn't be helping either - your resilience is probably lowered at the moment.
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