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Oscillation between two mind sets

creative_writerSenior Contributor14 Nov 2023, 6:49 pm AEDT

Oscillation between two mind sets

Sometimes I feel like I’m on top of things and don’t feel like my trauma defines me and I don’t feel so ashamed and scared. Other times I want to hide from the world and feel like a **** (I’m not going to say the word here since I don’t want to trigger anyone) 😭, I feel so ashamed that I don’t want people to know

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creative_writerSenior Contributor29 Apr 2024, 3:32 pm AEST

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@Former-Member pilates and gentle walks probably would be the best place to start for me. Don't think it would be a good idea to start vigorous exercise upright to begin with. I wear compression clothing everyday, it helps me get through the day, and electrolytes also help.

I am glad you have found a amazing cardiophysiologist. Having a good doctor really does help. I hope you are able to get some answers soon 💖🫂💖

I just had an appointment with my psych today. She thinks it is worth exploring a potential ADHD diagnosis with my psychiatrist. My attention span is pretty awful, I feel like not being able to concentrate has added to the stress of everything I already deal with for so long. The fact I responded to increased Matcha drinking was telling. I felt so stupid all these years, concentrating was hard, so I ended up ruminating over the past because I could not function. With the increased caffeine, I've been doing better, not perfect, but better

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PizzaMondoSenior Contributor29 Apr 2024, 3:42 pm AEST

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Hi @creative_writer 🙂
Just wanted to chime in here as I was late diagnosed with ADHD in adulthood not too long ago and was wondering how you felt when your psychiatrist suggested that may be worth exploring? Do you feel like you'd like to see where that may take you?

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creative_writerSenior Contributor29 Apr 2024, 4:15 pm AEST

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@PizzaMondo It is a bit overwhelming to be honest, if ADHD is the reason why I struggled all those years, it's just a shame it went under the radar, I could've done so much more with my life by now. I think it would be a good idea to explore it to see if there is anything I can do to manage it if I do have it

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PizzaMondoSenior Contributor29 Apr 2024, 5:09 pm AEST

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I can imagine it is overwhelming @creative_writer - I had these same thoughts and went through a process of grieving all my years not knowing and wondering how different life would have been if this was known to me as a kid, or even 10 years ago!

BUT, once we have gone through that process, I promise you it's not all over, we have our lives ahead of us and with the new info about us we can make our worlds more comfortable and direct it as we want. I've been able to identify 'what does PizzaMondo need?' in work settings, at home, with friends, and even with my family, that has aided overall with my mental health (something I never asked myself or .. felt I was allowed to). I guess I'm being kinder to myself and the more I learn about myself, the more I can use my ADHD brain in a way that feels good and serves me rather than work against me 😛

I am excited for you to go on this journey, I feel like you will definitely learn more about yourself and find many new strategies and skills in how to manage things that are difficult to currently!

P.S. You got me here if ya wanna chat more about it or have any questions.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor29 Apr 2024, 5:10 pm AEST

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Hugs @creative_writer ❤️

Diagnosed with Adhd now @PizzaMondo , how do you feel about that

My husband has had lots of diagnosis and now they think he has ASD

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PizzaMondoSenior Contributor29 Apr 2024, 5:37 pm AEST

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@Shaz51 I had been researching and learning about ADHD since covid when the world stopped for a bit for all of us.. so I was 100% sure I was living with ADHD coming up to the assessment.. and when the diagnosis happened I felt affirmed and validated, at the same time felt a little shocked.. However, now, I am very accepting and like I mentioned earlier to @creative_writer - trying to find the best ways to function that feels authentic to me. A big part of the journey has been 'unmasking' and it continues to be a focus in order to live authentically.

I recall you mentioning Mr Shaz and ASD - has there been any progress for him to seek a diagnosis/psychiatrist?

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creative_writerSenior Contributor29 Apr 2024, 5:47 pm AEST

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@PizzaMondo it took years for me to figure out I had ASD. I was 18 and my psych at the time told me I had ASD, I don't think I really made sense of it until years after the diagnosis. I mask a lot, it's automatic, so I think many people don't realise until they get to know me. I do often feel like I am not really authentic around people, it does get lonely.

I feel like ASD and ADHD is often under-diagnosed in girls and women, especially if they mask. I was just the shy kid who struggled to pay attention. I acted differently at home, I was the bouncy child, couldn't exactly bounce around when at school. I do stim at uni during class, and at times to my own detriment, though I'm trying to replace the unhealthy stim to a more healthy one. I now wear a soft bamboo scarf.

@Shaz51 a lot of diagnosis can be tough. Sending you and Mr. Shaz lots of love ❤️ 🫂

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PizzaMondoSenior Contributor29 Apr 2024, 5:58 pm AEST

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I know exactly how you feel, even with the unmasking, it still feels and does get lonely.. but one thing I have learned is that if I am able to surround myself with people who are either likeminded, share a common interest or are supportive in the sense they can listen to me without judgement, I am more likely to feel comfortable without a mask on..

I agree with you though @creative_writer - both ASD/ADHD is often overlooked! And females find ways to stim in public that is more subtle, example twirling hair with our finger, chewing gum, playing with rings (I still do this, my fave!) I feel like for some of us, when we are at home it was more of a 'safe place' to be the unmasked version of us, compared to in school where being the bouncy kid was seen as disruptive or something.

Have you seen the neurodivergent booklist I had created?!

I am glad to hear that you are finding healthy ways to stim, I know I used to chew my lips and bite my nails a lot, so short they would hurt, and now when I use nailpolish, I avoid the biting because I hate the taste and the nailpolish chips in my mouth.. lol... so I am glad you have this soft bamboo scarf now! What colour is it?!

I am heading off now, so goodnight to you both @creative_writer and @Shaz51 - hope you have a chill evening 🙂

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Shaz51Senior Contributor29 Apr 2024, 6:04 pm AEST

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OK good night @PizzaMondo 😊☕️

@creative_writer

Mr shaz does not know if he wants to get a proper diagnosis, takes time and is expensive

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Unknown userMember29 Apr 2024, 6:17 pm AEST

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Hey there @creative_writer 🤗🌺

Yes, that does sound like a really good idea, with gentle pilates and walking, instead of anything too taxing 🙂

Compression clothing really does make a difference I think, too 🙂 Electrolytes is a really great idea, also xx

Thank you kindly re the cardiophysiologist, the loop recorder should give us some really good data over the coming months, and Im really interested to see what kind of heart rhythm issue is present, and how they are going to approach it 🙂

Ok that sounds like things are heading in the right direction regarding the appointment today? Hopefully they can explore more into what is happening for you, and then look at exploring what might be helpful.... how do you feel about it, if you dont mind me asking? 💜🌺

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