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Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

TideisTurningSenior Contributor13 Nov 2023, 1:57 pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

On Tuesday 19th December, join us for a discussion together with one of SANE’s counsellors, about the end of year period, what this can look like for us, and how we can explore different ways to do it our way.

The event start times across Australia are below:

WA: 2:30pm
NT: 4:00pm

SA: 5:00pm

QLD: 4:30pm

NSW, ACT, VIC & TAS: 5:30pm

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Hope to see you there in the chat on the night!

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In response to: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

GlistenSenior Contributor19 Dec 2023, 6:02 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

@TideisTurning My daughter said to me “if you don’t have expectations, then you are never disappointed”.

A thing I need to unlearn.

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amber22Senior Contributor19 Dec 2023, 6:02 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

That rock sounds like such a nice grounding technique for you. You should be so proud, you are doing so well 🙂 @Stara

Is there something that you might have planned that you could do by yourself to make the holiday period a bit easier for you? Maybe planning to watch a holiday themed movie, or having a nice meal?

In response to: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

HealandloveSenior Contributor19 Dec 2023, 6:03 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

@Stara I'm so glad you are here. I also love touching nature. Keeps me grounded.

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BigSkyCatContributor19 Dec 2023, 6:03 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

@Stara I love the way you found a rock that feels good and you use it in a mindful way

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HealandloveSenior Contributor19 Dec 2023, 6:05 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

@amber22 thank you. My husband is getting therapy, we are getting marriage counselling and I am getting my own therapy too so can't ask for more than that. You are right that every year is different and I am hoping with time the grief and sense of loss lessens.

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SnowieSenior Contributor19 Dec 2023, 6:06 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

I try and just take it one step at a time. I try not to look forward and just take it as it comes. I do try and take some time out for myself and step away when things get overwhelming. Prn come in handy as well as an anxiety ring/bracelet that I can fiddle with.

I also know that I am going to have snide remarks made to me about the family I don't want contact with so I try and brace for the onslaught.

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BigSkyCatContributor19 Dec 2023, 6:06 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

@Healandlove I am really glad you are trying EMDR. This helped me immensely with my complex trauma. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy - I would recommend Dr Russ Harris on this - google him he knows how to speak normally!

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TideisTurningSenior Contributor19 Dec 2023, 6:06 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

That's a tough one @Glisten. There is such a thing as 'stealth' or 'unchecked' expectations, though expectations are natural I feel! I wonder if it's about managing or reality checking them? 😊

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amber22Senior Contributor19 Dec 2023, 6:08 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

Taking it one day at a time sounds like a really good plan ❤️

Planning for what you can anticipate can also be really helpful, and making sure you have time aside for yourself to have do self-care when needed @Snowie

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BigSkyCatContributor19 Dec 2023, 6:08 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday// End Of Year, YOUR Way // Tuesday 19th December 2023 5:30-7PM AEDT

totally agree with you that one step at a time is always good especially when we are struggling @Snowie

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