Far and Away

It was a spur of the moment trip to the supermarket @Bimby2 Was planning to do it tomorrow but went today instead. Hope you are having a good weekend

Yes I do know that so well @Faith-and-Hope I couldn't switch off last night either and today has been much the same. Tried to sleep a couple of times but my brain didn't want to accommodate that. Will see how I go tonight too. I really hope you can get an early night - you certainly need that rest Hon. I still have to put some of the groceries away but finding the energy tonight is proving elusive.

So glad you saw the other kids today - you must be missing them How are they doing?

The other two are working together to establish an independent living space for themselves in the art space @Zoe7 ..... which will force changes to our main living space which will still be the centre of our family home (kids and me) but will now need to incorporate the family art space, but the kids want to have our family meals in their living space (the current art space).

Confused yet ?? LOL

Think of a granny-flat type set-up, and them taking over the granny-flat that used to be a backyard studio / spare bedroom. It's that sort of scenario.

Clear as mud @Faith-and-Hope lol

I do actually get it and it seems like a good balance for them to both have that independence whilst having you and D2 there too. You can share some family time together for meals but the rest of the time they can have their own space when they need it. It will mean moving the art space back to where you and D2 are living but that also might be really good for you both. There are certainly a lot of pluses in these changes for all of you.

It is probably the best arrangement we can achieve for now, and support the growth (regrowth?) of independence for these two baby dragons.

Around this, and any other changes we make, I have to field things to prevent WH using the altered situation for financial leverage ..... 😠

Considering you are still the 'caretaker' of those baby dragons in a shared (but separate) living spaces @Faith-and-Hope I would see he doesn't have much of a leg to stand on. He could try to say he is supporting them in living independently but with you and D2 being so close and sharing meals together there is a very real sense of support from you around them still. He is not even living in the vicinity - of his own selfish doing - so as much as he will try to say he is supporting those baby sragons the reality is he has moved on - so you certainly have truth on your side yet again.

He has mobed back into our complex @Zoe7, and in fact has located himself physically closer to where they are ..... but you're right in terms of not sharing meals as a family the way we are. He is claiming to be supporting them financially, by doing things that are currently under legal contention, so I won't go into it ..... that is all part of the fielding.

I have faith that the truth will show itself regardless @Zoe7 .

Oh @Faith-and-Hope I did not know that Hon - that just adds another layer to his selfishness - that he can think it is okay to be around so closely with all he is doing - and to have such blatantly disregard for you in all this is absolutely disgusting. I am so sorry he is doing this to you - a/h does not even come close

I presume he is still controlling the finances and amking it impossible for you to do anything yourself - but that will out itself as well - he can't continue to say he is the only one supporting everyone when you have no access yourself.

I know this manipulation of everything at the moment is so very hard but he really is delusional to think that the truth will not be seen - typical narcissist.

Keep hold of that belief Hon - you do have truth on your side and it will out itself more and more as he tries to control more @Faith-and-Hope

He / they are being completely obnoxious @Zoe7. As far as I am concerned, true colours are showing.

There is a huge difference between a relationship drifting apart, and the sort of lies, deception, manipulation, nastiness and lack of integrity on display here.