Far and Away

@Faith-and-Hope @Snowie @Former-Member @Eve7 @Shaz51 Tobes is doing a lot better - came to greet me at the door and ate his biscuit last night. He still has not been to the toilet but does not seem to be in any discomfort now either. He has been chasing Clover and Clover has been pouncing on him - much to his dismay lol She is presently biting her tail next to me with Tobes right there on his doona too looking at her as if to say 'not you again'! Cat has been out today and fell asleep in her favourite spot so I left her there - checking on her constantly until she came inside. I take Tobes back to the vet Tuesday to run follow up tests with the hope they are all back to normal and he is still recovering well. I saw my usual vet with Clover yesterday and she said she had been checking in on Tobes as well - so he was in the very best hands possible with both vets - could not have asked for anymore. The after hours vet however was another story and I am going to write a letter to the practice manager - his care was neither enough nor right. The last vet I saw there on the Sunday night said to me 'he is not going to die overnight' and said what we could do and not what we should do - suggesting I see my normal vet the next day - so of course I took him home. Pretty angry now with their care (or lack of it). They also sent him back to the clinic after the night he spent there when I was to pick him up and take him myself - I understand it was a mistake and they were transporting a lot of animals that morning but that combined with the lack of care the evening before has made me pretty angry.

I have been back to the specialist - was there all of 5 minutes but that was because everything was pretty good. The heart issues are definitely related to my sleep apnea with some other irregularities but nothing to be concerned about. I cannot afford the sleep machine right now with all the vet and medical bills but as soon as I can I will get it. I was saving specifically to get it before poor Tobes got sick so will just have to start again.

@Faith-and-Hope I hope you are having a wonderful afternoon at the art gallery Hon. Have you had your interview for the gallery for your own exhibition yet?

@Snowie Not a lot of sleep last night but Tobes slept pretty well so hoping tonight will be better now he seems much better. How are you feeling today Hon? Has you guest gone home?

So glad Tobes is doing a lot better and he is getting back to his normal self @Zoe7

It sounds like your personal Vet is wonderful hon and Tobes was in the best care. Sorry to hear that the other Vet wasn't as good. Hoping your letter reaches the right people at the clinic.

Hoping you get more sleep tonight hon.

My day started early with ECT. Home now and nephew has gone home. Mum cracked it because she had to go take him and meet my brother at the local shops because he couldn't come to our house. Of course she took it out on me like she always does. Just makes things worse for me and makes me rethink all the decisions I have made. My sh and si has been high the last few days too. Today's outburst hasn't helped at all and just made things worse.

Sorry, just blurted out everything.

Oh @Snowie Your mother is doing it again hey - grr! I know how hard it is to let it go - especially with her living with you and being around all the time - but it really is her issue to deal with Hon. If she cannot accept your terms and cannot accept why it has to be that way then she is fooling herself. You have done the right thing by your son with allowing his cousin to stay but you do not have to have anything to do with his father and if your mother cannot accept it then that is on her. It is your home and the place you need to feel safe (as best you can) and if your mother has an issue then you can tell her where the door is 👍

Thanks @Zoe7

She certainly knows how to make things worse and how to make me feel guilty about my decisions. I try to ignore her and her words, but it is hard at times.

Have you got much planned for the weekend?

So glad Tobes is doing a lot better @Zoe7

ohhh hugs my @Snowie

today we did 2 houses -- 6 hours cleaning all up

our little Smokey came out to meet us as the owners were gone very early

found a surprise a half eaten mouse on the mat

smokey did not last long today as he ws very tired from his early morning @Sans911 , @Faith-and-Hope , @Eve7 , @Former-Member

was able to give him cuddles today which was very nice xoxo

oh @Shaz51

You must be tired hon, sounds like you have had such a busy day.

I hope you are able to get some rest tonight and on the weekend.

lots of aches and pains mow my @Snowie for our usual friday xxxx

Well I hope you can get some rest tonight @Shaz51 and sit down and relax hon.

Hoping your weekend is a restful and relaxing time for you too.

It is hard @Snowie I have had that from my own mother but the more I have stood up to her and challenged her on her words and actions the more I have been able to voice my own opinions and let her know it is not okay. Your situation is very different though and complicated so I get that is so much harder for you You should not have to be walking on eggshells all the time though Hon and should not have to put up with the constant reminders, nastiness and uncomfortablility of what she will or will not do/say - you have evvery right to lead a better life and to feel safe and secure in your own home so whilst it may not be what is wanted maybe what is needed is for her to find her own place ...complicated I know but you deserve so much better sweetheart

@Shaz51 Smokey cuddles 😋

Thanks @Zoe7

I wish she would find her own place but I know that won't happen. She has neither the money nor the desire to move. Why would she move when she lives rent free at our house. Luckily she at least has her own unit/area so it is not 24hours constant contact with her.