Far and Away

Dreaded triangle @Sans911 dum de dum de dum....

It certainly does @Sans911 You can't catch a break Hon You are strong though sweetheart - it is not going to be an easy road but having some answers will help. Bloody health gets in the way of life hey

Snow image is up - looks gorgeous @Sans911 I always intended to go back to the UK - my aim was to work there but 'life' got in the way of that. I still dream of going back but would not leave my fur babies ...even after it finally becomes safer to travel.

That is a fair way out then @Sans911 I based myself near Russell Square. The hotel was pretty crappy but it was cheapish and I could leave my luggage there and only take what I needed to other places/countries. I got pretty used to it there - can still see the whole area. One of the bombs in 2005 went off just around the corner from the hotel - made it very real knowing exactly where it was

Tobes has taken himself off to bed in the bedroom @Sans911 and I need to follow him. It has been really lovely catching you tonight ...miss you when you are not here but wonderful to see you back a bit more lately. Love and hugs to you and Mr A 💖😺

Sounds complicated and many layers @Faith-and-Hope and hard to clean up as you said, because it's all still coming out.

many layers to mine also. Eventually uncovered a homosexual affair and a whole heap of other disgusting stuff. No idea who this 'Christian' man was that I married.

and yes, certainly hard when kids are involved. I'd love for him to take a job on the other side of the country. 10+ more years of his continuing bs is hard to swallow. A constant reminder of what he destroyed. I started seeing a psychologist late last year to work through all this, but haven't even touched on any of it yet.

Hearing you loud and clear @Bow .....

I think mine still considers himself a Christian ..... turns up fleetingly at church (?!) while still married to me and living with "her", and her kids, under my nose and all over the people and places that used to be all about us.

My counsellor has provided me info on NPD which has helped me wrap my head around the pattern that has emerged. I hope that helps to give you a lead with your own recovery It was so foreign a concept, and so subtle / masked that I didn't see it coming.

The change (bs and lies) also occurred for us across a ten year period too. So far there hasn't been any evidence of other affairs, but there is a trail of financial betrayal ...... and I don't know the details of his "new" relationship yet, including how long he has known her or where / how they met. It will come out progressively though. Truth doesn't remain hidden.