Far and Away

@MDT I am not sure .... but I have found it before through my profile. Can you see a "hamburger" at the top of the page somewhere (three hoizontal

lines) ? Click on that and have a scootch through the settings there.

Hi @outlander 👋 💕

I have been around, just a bit quiet with everythibg that's going on.

Let's just say that I am as okay as I can be under the current circumstances @outlander ..... the roller coaster is still in full swing.

I have noticed that you were quiet too, but I am also aware there is a lot going on for you too.

It's good to see you 💞

❤️🦋🌹 @Zoe7

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@Faith-and-Hope wrote:

Oh @Emelia8 .... that is so heart breaking for you.

Sending gentle hugs your way, and thank you for all your lovely, lovely words. I feel special here, but special amongst so many special people ...... this is, at its core, a wonderful community, and I feel so honoured to have been so well received here - especially perhaps, in the face of the abusive behaviours I have been co-existing with for a long time in my domestic situation, and I know you appreciate that too.

💜💐💞

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Yes @Faith-and-Hope , sadly I understand the abusive domestic situation you've been enduring, only too well. 😞 The worst of it will soon be over for you though. And your new free and safe life will be worth the wait. 💓

Hi @Former-Member @outlander @Clawde 👋

Emelia

Not while we have a shared dependent adult child @Emelia8. He can continue making a helluva lot is trouble through and around her .... but will have to wait and see how that turns out. Co-parenting is not possible. They call it "parallel parenting" when you're working with one of these .... If that wasn't the case I could go "no contact". Rhings will change anyway, one way or another. Just gotta keep swimming. Thinking of you often as I do ..... ❤️

Hugs n hugs @Zoe7. You have done a fantastic job of those reports, and that school is so lucky to have a gem like you ❣️

Hi @Faith-and-Hope can relate to your difficulties around parallel parenting. Been slogging away at it for 3 yrs and got another 13 or so to go. His not a good... not a safe person but nothing I can do about it. Sounds like your stuck with it a bit too with dependant adult kids involved? Not an easy road to walk.

I am sorry to hear you are having to cope with that sort of situation too @Bow.. It sucks, but the choice is taken out of our hands.

The thing is, the kids will gravitate to the parent who is authentic, consistent, reliable, and safe. Without deliberately creating any conflicts of interest, working g with "an open hand" with your children will enable them to see who s and what their parents are. They begin to make their own choices, and my D2's adult siblings will provide extra examples of the "right" way. She will find the same authenticity, consistency, reliability, and safety with them too.

Sometimes it's teachers at school (@Zoe7 @Snowie 💕💕) m, grandparents, aunts , uncles, family friends ...... providing your child / children with a village around them is important. "Other parent's" antics can become diluted that way, and they find refuge in their other relationships.

Just never thought I would be in this position, but then I didn't know what I was married to until the mask came off.

Hugs ❣️