Far and Away

I'm so sorry to hear @WIP

I miss you too lovely. I really hope your appointment goes well today 💞

Hi @Faith-and-Hope - you said "submissions all in, just have another project that is more of a social contribution I am committed for over the next week or so ..... but I am sort-of finished for the year"

WOW! Given the circumstances I'm so proud of your committment and resolve. So was wish I was more like you this way. Does this mean you're 2/3 the way through degree? WTG! Enjoy the Christmas break.

Hi @Zoe7 @Emelia8 @Anastasia @WIP and everyone here 💕

Lovely to see you @Former-Member x

Hi @Former-Member ..... 👋💕

I have finished TAFE at uni studies now, but that provides credit in the Bachelor program, so I am actually half way through now, unless I want to do the whole Bachelor program. I don't think I will know that until I am in it though, and until there is some clarity about how badly s2bx intends to drag out all our legal complications ..... by creating more and more complications .....,

Creating chaos is a form of gaslighting - and he's a master at it. He is trying to use my studies against me, re D2. He creates what is called "double binds", or lose-lose choices is another name for them.

The more he is doing this though, the more he is showing up who he actually is, and once you have seen behind the mask, you can't pretend you haven't - like the Wizard of Oz. Once you've seen the man behind the curtain, you know the apparition is not real.

@Faith-and-Hope 1/2 way is still excellent! As for stbx - people do change, I might be wrong in doing so but I like to remember the was what good that once was, was real, and beautiful... but now it is gone, we just couldn't hold onto it (probably distraction, cares of the this world, illness, greed, power, sin, inherited sin deception etc), and it's a huge loss. Humans suck at loss, some get downright vindictive, mine was - yours a shocker! The betrayal was hardest, and hurting the children. Its a full time job going through marriage breakdown / divorce and legal conflicts. Feel for you and pray you'll find moments of joy to replenish your soul through it all xoxo

Thanks so much @Former-Member ..... and you said it well. What we had that was so beautiful was real to me, and worth fighting for to try to recover it ..... before the betrayal and the dropping of the mask of course.

That has actually made it much easier to sign off I think - accepting that I am dealing with a completely different person now, one who has no boundaries.

What had seemed to be his value system previously was what served him at the time, working to the script that was "us", and that one doesn't exist anymore.

His new script is to be as vile towards me as he can, around the attention of our kids so they don't know, and don't believe it if I try to speak up about it. You probably know all this from your own experience ......

Unfortuantely for him, he now has to juggle another script at the same time - projecting himself to be of the same value system as his partner in betrayal, mirroring her personality and taste back to her so she thinks she has found her soul-mate ......

Good luck to both of them. I can't imagine that living a deception like that will turn out well .....

I just want to leave them both in my dust, but D2 is now a glue that keeps us all bound to the situation, for life, as he planned.

Horrible feeling of being 'trapped "FOREVER" or forced to interact, using depends as pawns... sometimes I wonder if taking my girl was God saying "enough!" but I wouldn't wish that on anyone. I know someone who is going through this with x3 different dad's of her young children. The mind boggles. Guess the best you can do is get D2 as independent as possible. As for his 'bit' - I don't think it will last with his control issues. But maybe a blessing in disguise she's about atm, to help you see, to sever those spiritul ties. Its very hard 😢

So, so proud of you @Faith-and-Hope Well done 🎉🎈✨

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Thank you @Zoe7 🙏 💕

Hearing you @Former-Member 💞