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Thanks @Faith-and-Hope, how's your adventure going? Is there a particular thread your putting updates? Jetlag takes about a week to settle I'm told, and I'm sure there's son Celtic wisdom to get over your post viral fatigue How's WH coping with his obcessive routines while travelling? A challenge I would think 😕 Hope this is a time yo rekindle some first love maybe. Any good churches to visit there? Did you go this morning? Love ancient architecture and history. Churches are great for it. Hugz xox
Hadn't thought to start a new thread ....
In transit again today and have to go again now .... found a brief moment with wifi .... will catch you later and answer the above.
Makes complete sense @Former-Member and thank you so much for your insight I think it seems like I should be over the shock but I really am not - and that is hard to understand for me let alone explaining it to anyone else. I am just in a state of nothingness, numb, down and feeling very lost. I know it will all hit me eventually and I can only hope I have the ability to deal with it when it does. Yes history is hard to deal with as well - so much past grief that I have not dealt with either is likely feeding into it all now - but my way to deal with that has for a very long time been to completely dismiss ht has happened and get through by blocking any feelings ....so maybe it is all going to come to a head now
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Love to you all too 💖💖 @Maggie@Former-Member@Former-Member@Adge@Shaz51 💜💚💖 @Emelia8 💐💕 @Snowie 💕💕 @Lee82 ❤️💜💙💚🧡💛 @Faith-and-Hope 💖🧡💛💚💜💙 💜💜💜
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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Thanks @Eve7 The kids certainly do make it easier to go to work. Hope you are doing okay Hon
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
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Thank you @Zoe7 .... hugs gratefully received here too ....
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@Zoe7, sorry for your life traums. It alters our coping baseline. Try not to let the fear (of the grief breaking through the numbness) hitting you at once, add anxiety strain to the slready difficult process. Grief does jump up and bite us in waves, some feel like tsunamis, and when it does, just a few minutes of overwhelm can feel like a forever marathon... When it comes, learn not to run from it too much (or push it down) but rather, when grief waves come, dtep aside, take a minute, a breath and honour the feelings within, the tears and groanings that want to come, let them come out, even if just briefly. Don't force it, don't hold back, let it flow... its normal and you will survive. Take a deep breath and on that day - remember to self care a lot, when time permits, as grief work is exhausting. The grief waves ebb back and forth for some time before the waters settle. Be kind and gentle with yourself (((💗)))
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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I hope I can do all that when the time comes @Former-Member I have never dealt with my Pop's death - just too hard, Nan was expected so that was easier to deal with as we had time together. I know you know how very hard it is when it is so unexpected. Definitely one day at a time right now.
Thank you so much for your wise and considered words Hon - it all not only makes complete sense but is also probably what I needed to hear right now so I am exceptionally grateful for your wisdom (despite wishing you didn't have it under the circumstances you do )
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💜🌻@Former-Member .....
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Hi and thanks for the tags yesterday @Zoe7@Emelia8@Snowie@Maggie@Former-Member and hi to @Faith-and-Hope
Hoping for a peaceful day for us all. 💖💞
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@Zoe7 hoping today was kind tto you hun 💜
@Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@Emelia8@Former-Member sending lots of hugs and love 💕💕💕💕
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I think it seems like I should be over the shock but I really am not - and that is hard to understand for me let alone explaining it to anyone else. I am just in a state of nothingness, numb, down and feeling very lost. I know it will all hit me eventually and I can only hope I have the ability to deal with it when it does. Yes history is hard to deal with as well - so much past grief that I have not dealt with either is likely feeding into it all now - but my way to deal with that has for a very long time been to completely dismiss ht has happened and get through by blocking any feelings ....so maybe it is all going to come to a head now 
