Far and Away

Hey @Adge I didn't get your tag last night so just saw your post now. I hope you are having an okay day - always good to see you

Hi @Zoe7

I have been out of touch with my own health problems recently so I don't know much of what has been happening

I read what's going on with one of the families at your school - it is hard to deal with parents in denial like that - hard to deal with anyone in denial - I understand

When I was having trouble with my son at school I was so grateful that the teachers understood that the problem was way out of our control - and their control - and we were on the same page. It wasn't a question of funding - it was a difficult child and I can understand the tension that must be your issue and your colleagues - and eventually the community - more than I want to say - having been there

I don't know what to suggest - there is so much pressure on schools to do the parenting in these strange times and when a child is not making it puts so much pressure on the school system

I hear you - I don't know enough about the system now to have any idea - but I do know how much you value your work - love you work and I can only say that I hear you and wish those parents had an idea - which obviously they don't

It's a very sad and sorry situation - if this has been going on for the last short while I wish I had known but yes - I do tend to take time for self-care when I need it. I am feeling better since I ate dinner this evening - my appetite was non-existant for a few days - I had an injection into my glenoid cavity yesterday - it went well - and I control my stress by not thinking about it but alas - my body knows and drains my energy - but I coped with it

All the best Zoe

Dec

Hi @Former-Member

It's so great to see your support here and there - esp when I was having the shoulder shot.

And I tend to write a lot - and it hasn't been easy today because the shoulder has a touchy place which will be the case for a few days - maybe tomorrow - and I might send my helper to the supermarket tomorrow to keep it safe

How are you going? I have not been reading around the forum much - totally without energy lately - my mind copes - yes - this is happening - I could stop it if I wanted to - but I am going ahead with it - I do not want to be inconvenienced by a painful operation that will keep my out of action for however long with a week in hospital - which I do not fancy one scrap

So I have been taking it easy - my daughter is taking a day off work for my birthday - gee - that's coming up soon - I think that's wonderful - I guess I am getting older and more precious - I hope so - she is the rose of my life but I don't see much of her for she has a very busy and well organised life - as I did when I was her age - I guess she didn't fall far from the tree

Look after yourself Sherry and your little Holly - I am glad you have your little dog - I miss my old cat - I would have got another one had I had an inkling of the lock-down - but as soon as the airports are open again I will be waiting for the bubble to last and I will be off again - Queensland is the first place I want to go

Catch up soon

Dec

It is really difficult @Owlunar Parent pressured for more Aid time that is not funded so the school organised for an additional session and now the parent is keeping her child home on that day each week to attend other outside school supports. It is a no-win situation presently and the child is the one that is going to suffer - but she cannot or does not want to see that. The annoying thing is I have 4 more kids in the class that could do with that additional support but also do not fit into funding requirements so they get left further and further behind ...so frustrating!

Hi @Zoe7 @Adge @Owlunar @Former-Member ...., anyone else around.

Today's assignment is going really well so far. D3 helped me on a part using Photoshop that I was too rusty in to navigate ..... have to do more of it to revise in the break methinks.

So sorry to hear about the difficulties at school @Zoe7. I can relate well the the mum who wants to focus on how able their child is ..... it's so hard to come to terms with the fact that you have to keep their ableness up your sleeve like a bonus, and critique how unable they are, putting the spotlight into everything they can't do in a really unbalanced way in order to get the support they need ...... it's heartbreaking to have to do that, but it is what it is. I have legal issues around D2 like that now ...... thanks to what's 'is name ..... grrrr

Speakingif what's 'is name, another of my in-laws did something really insensitive today, in the guise of being kind / helpful ..... but really, no emotional intelligence !!!! If the shoe was on the other foot, they would be as appalled as I am to be in the receiving end. Just another reminder of how better off I am going to be once all this is done with. It's so hard having kids in the middle being played.

Sigh ......

Back to my assignment - that is something I can do something about.

Hi @Zoe7 I'm sorry to hear you had a crap day (or similar words).

@Faith-and-HopeGave me some other options (instead of Swimming) - So I can "Keep on Skiing", "Keep on Bushwalking", or maybe "Keep on Yoga-ing"....

More achievable for me than swimming.

This whole Redundancy business (repercussions of), has been stressful.

My Union lodged Unfair Dismissal Claims for up to 70 of us (70 staff dismissed) - which resulted in a compromise.

Ex-employer produced a Statement of Service (requested by Union), which will be helpful.

Plus a small amount of extra $ payout.

This has gone on for almost a month, so I will be relieved to see the end of it.

I've got places to go, things to do, people to meet (in theory) - well that's the romantic view (hope).

Adge

Oh Hon that is not what you need at all I hope they come to realise what they have done but as you said - better off without them all when that finally happens @Faith-and-Hope ...and I really hope that day comes soon - you hvae dealt with enough and each day I hope for you that he finally wakes up ...but we both know he won't because he has no capacity to do so.

Having your kids (especislly D2) in the middle is super hard. Unfortunately they need to navigate all this themselves too but yet again HE does not have any empathy or care for them (disguised I know in what he thinks is care but is in fact control). You have raised some wonderful kids though Hon and together you will all navigate all this - and that is down to the values you have instilled in them throughout their lives. It is harder for D3 and S2 being so close to it all and with their own health problems but they also know you are there for them and that does make a difference.

I did think you would have some idea of what is happening at school but did not want to go into it too much - especially when it has been highly emotional for me this past couple of weeks. I know the parent wants the best for her child but she also has her eyes closed as to how detrimental it is to gaining that additional support with inflating his abilities. It can't be both ways and funding is so limited that unless we highlight clearly and loudly what he cannot do then the chances of getting it across the line is minimal.

I like 'keep on yoga-ing' for you @Adge - that aligns with what you like 👍

It certainly has been a huge kick for you with the whole reduncancy situation but any extra you can get is a bonus. I do hope this is a chance for you to start fresh - maybe even a new direction for you and some positive outcomes at the end of it ...I will certainly be holding out hope that that is the case for you

Aw @Zoe7

That is so rough - I have looked into the Smith Family - curious to know how sponsoring a child can work or if it can work - and I feel it's like a bottomless pit - and wonder who really is responsible for these children - and having done my part thing that there is never enough -

I can really feel your challenge - there is a child who could have funding using up time that could otherwise be available for children who are not entitled to funding - yet all need the extra time

The trouble is you can't do it all - I am sure you are doing the best to care for your own health - and here's an interesting thought I just had but I am sure I have had it before - you feel it so much more because you are a very sensitive person and this makes it hard for you. But you are who you are and you make a difference wherever you go I am sure

But it is never easy for you

Dec