Far and Away

Hi everyone on this thread. I'm just browsing the forums since I should come on here more, I hope no one minds, apologies.

@Shaz51 and others.

I have absolutely no doubt you will stay the course @Faith-and-Hope You are not the type of person to veer away from your own beliefs and values - although I know right now, with all you are deling with and being conrfronted with, that is extremely hard to do. He is certainly continuing to hurt you in the process but there will come the day (and that cannot come soon enough) when you will be rid of him, his games, his betraya, his control and his lack of respect or empathy. No-one wants you to be going through any of this but you have strength and courage in spades - and when the dust finally settles it will be you that is seen in such a positive, glowing light by everyone around you - he will not come out of this well but that will be his cross to bear. Keep the hope alive that you can not only get through this but will have a much better life on the other side ...and of course we are here walking this rocky road with you all the way

@Faith-and-Hope @Zoe7

@oceangirlTMS is going ok. I have had it before so just a top up this time. I finish tomorrow so am being discharged. Looking forward to going home (I think)

Hey @Snowie

Hi @Zoe7

I see you have had a busy but productive day

Yes but not all that I wanted to achieve @Snowie Just finished my writing groups for this week but still need to do my maths groups ...that should not take too long though. Then I can relax a bit more tonight and hopefully have a relatively early night.

It sounds like you have achieved a lot today @Zoe7 Maybe not as much as you would have liked but you need to take care of yourself too hun, and it seems like the nap helped you.

I hope you get some good sleep tonight to get you through tomorrow

Just getting something to eat before I finish everything up for this evening @Snowie Still have to pack the car also so will do that now while dinner is cooking... be back soon

I hope that day comes @Zoe7 .... but another side of NPD is their ongoing perceived ownership of you. I will keep focused on life as I want to live it, and trust that a combination of future events will help me be free of him eventually. His physical illness may have a role to play in that too, but I earnestly hope that comes in the form of diagnosis and treatment. Apart from validation, I think it is really important for our kids to be aware, and receive support, around his issues and what they represent.

There is a lot for both you and your kids to have to deal with Hon ...and of course the ongoing shared care of D2. Unfortunately that is going to tie you to him in a way forever and that cannot be avoided but your other kids need to find their own way through this (with both your support and that of the professionals of course). He has not just betrayed you but your kids as well and that will take time to work through. They are so very lucky to have you as their Mum though @Faith-and-Hope - they will feed off your strength and follow your lead in how very dignified you are being in spite of the massive amount of hurt and pain you are being forced to endure. So much respect for you and so much admiration 💕😘