Far and Away

Hello and hugs @Faith-and-Hope , @Zoe7 , @Former-Member , @Determined @Bimby2

Sorry for not being much support

Soo much going on

Awwwwww soo tired, rang the doctor about mum , no reply back yet

My aunty thinks she should stay in hospital but mum wants to go home

Oh Hon I am so sorry you had to see them together - but it is probably a good thing too. It makes it very real now and you have a face to despise along with Him. All those questions you inevitably ask yourself and wonders of what she is like can now be put to rest a little more. When it comes down to it He is the one that has lost out and I truly hope he has a miserable life from herein ...I know that is not a nice thing to say but he does not deserve anymore than that. It is not your problem now though and YOU can build the life that you want and deserve. @Faith-and-Hope

Ohh hugs my @Faith-and-Hope xoxo

Whilst your Mum can communicate her needs and live a somewhat independent life she has the right to go home @Shaz51 You will no doubt have that conversation with her hen you feel it is no longer feasible for her to live at home - but that is up to you and her. You are there daily and know what she can and cannot cope. Does your Mum have a power of attorney my sister - with all the other 'voices' trying to be heard here it might be a good time to discuss that with your Mum so her needs as you know them will continued to be met when it does come to the time she cannot look after herself.

I have power of Attorney for my mum @Zoe7

Yes indeed I know when and where

I just need to be strong and not listen to all these other voices xxxxxx

That is good to hear @Shaz51 Your Mum is in safe hands

Its good @Shaz51 that you have your Mums POA. I hope you also have an Enduring Guardianship in place.

It is a comfort recognising who I need to be avoiding in our condensed living space @Zoe7 ..... it was only a matter of time before we ran into each other in some capacity or another, now that he has moved back into the same condensed living community we live in. "She" was a long way from where "she" lives today, but I already know from D2's conversations when "she" has been present in our community here on the days that D2 is with her father, which demonstrates they are together every day, either here or at The Coffee Place, or both.

I think I am so far beyond caring now that the reality has set in, that I actually felt a bit sorry for "her" .... I don't think they saw me, and "she" seemed troubled ..... not my problem of course, but knowing what he has done to us, I don't envy "her" at all, and wonder if "she" has any real idea about what "she" has gotten "herself" into .....

As ugly as this situation is though, "her" presence now represents my freedom from all this in the longer term .... once we have survived the storm.

Stay strong my sister @Faith-and-Hope xoxo

You are a better person than me then @Faith-and-Hope I would not have any sympathy for her at all as she knew what she was doing when she got involved with him. What happens from here on in is her problem to deal with and I will be totally honest - I am glad this has happened to give YOU your life back - not all the pain or deception but someone else to deal with all his issues. Being so controlled. emotionally abused and treated as if you did not matter for so long broke my heart everyday for you - now I believe that once this storm eventually passes that you will soar. You have so much to give this world - so much kindness, wisdom, talent and compassion - and once you have that total freedom to live your own life the world is your oyster Hon. 💜💙💚🧡💛