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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Hi @Teej ..... you could well be right re diagnosis, but I couldn't care less right now if he is ever diagnosed for him ..... it's all about trying to keep the kids out of harm's way now ..... which I can no longer do .... but that is opening the floodgates for counsellors, therapists, and support workers in a way that I couldn't achieve, and they are / will be witnessing all the manipulations and damaging behaviours ..., and hearing it directly from the kids.
I think you're right again - whether any sort of label gets placed on those behaviours or not, the point is that they are not acceptable, and will be dealt with that way.
D2 has been granted NDIS access ..... 🎉 . That's going to change the landscape around her .....
@eth
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TeejSenior Contributor
Lol @CheerBear with that comment about a war wife. Cracked me up.
it sounds like your life is as full on as ever, and probably just as crazy as ever throwing a new relationship in 😬😂. How are the people of yours going? I'm so sorry if I've missed something there. I'm not sure what's happened with unwell one.
mine are ok. Lots of stresses and things happening to a couple (work for one and a double knee surgery for another soon) and relationships have been strained once or twice all round but more settled now....I hope.
im ??? I don't know really. I guess I'm struggling lots but wanting to be better. Just got off the helpline that was a huge help to calm some of the farm.
im really feeling that daunting feeling of being absent and so much has happened and trying to find my way back here. So much has happened irl here and I'm not so good at juggling everything.
Finally given myself permission to just be for tonight. It's been a while since I've done that.
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TeejSenior Contributor
Woohoo re D2 @Faith-and-Hope . That's great news. The timing couldn't have been better either for an independent person being able to help her through the maze.
here's to finding a way through ll this @Faith-and-Hope 🙏🤞🏼🍀
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
There will be a way through all this @Teej ..... all I can do is take the baby steps to get there. That much hasn't changed.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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ethSenior Contributor
Lovely to see you @Teej I often miss you. I'm happy to just sit with you for a while, while you just be. I need to do that quite a bit still myself. No need to fill in all the details of life since you were last here, we can just pick up where we left off. No pressure to be or do or say anything at all. Just know I am here for you. Lots of love 
, acceptance and support xx
@Faith-and-Hope that's wonderful news about your daughter getting approved for NDIS. Now to put it into action. If you want any hints or recommendations feel free to tag me. I am sure it will make life much better for both of you once you learn how to manage it. I'd love to ask you lots more about your set up with it, but I know you have a lot on your plate right now. Jump onto the Anyone started with the NDIS? thread if you feel like talking more about it. Hoping other issues and challenges in your life currently will start to even out before long. As always you are staunch and doing an amazing job of getting through it all.
Take care to all here xx
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Thanks @eth ..... I will ask if / when there are things I need or want to know ..... I appreciate that support being here as well as there.
Its all a bit daunting, but big girl pants are compulsory here, so I am setting balls rolling and learning on the job what to do next.
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ethSenior Contributor
@Faith-and-Hope hoping you have funds for and find a really good coordinator of supports. And a great plan manager if that's the way you are going. I have found that independent people are much better than those with major organisations. And Hireup is brilliant for finding what you want in a support worker and much more flexible availability times.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Thanks @eth . I had a wonderful lady as D2's carer last year, but she has returned to studies herself this year and is unavailable (moved much further away too). I found her through an alternative platform, so I logged in last night to find someone new, and today will be sorting all that out ....
It might be putting the cart before the horse, but uni starts this week, so I need somebody straight off. It's a NDIS provider, so hopefully this will all glue together a bit further down the line.
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