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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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ethSenior Contributor
Hi back to you @outlander and to anyone else around tonight. Heading for Topic Tuesday soon. May see you there.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
Lol not a pest @CheerBear. It was a good break away from everything. Whilst it helped I have come home still feeling a bit lost but much better than when I went in. I had some nice moments away and it was so good doing the activities everyday. I had some pretty cool moments watching some monkeys at one of the places we went to. The weather gods had our backs. It was meant to be a miserable week but we avoided the worst of it and didn’t get caught in any rain showers.
The house had great heating. Ithas been a bit of a shock to come back to this house which is cold but I’m also mindful of the cost to heat it unless I really need to.
Not much else to tell about respite.
I had a very honest conversation last night with one of my crew talking about the time I attempted and how he remembered everything the ambulance driver said which was now 6 years ago. I was unconscious at the time and don’t remember anything. We talked about the very big confusing feelings about my ex and his actions. He loved him too. There were things he told me that I didn’t know. I had some big sad feelings that he had to deal with so much during that phase. He was only 13 years old. I didn’t understand that he was left alone a lot and didn’t have anyone that he could talk to. I had left him living with my ex thinking he’d be better off there. I was really unwell through that time. I didn’t want the kids to love me because I didn’t want to hurt them because I didn’t want to live. I pushed them away thinking it was the kindest thing I could do. I just found out that my ex left him alone often while he went to the pub to numb himself for the 18 months he was there. His brothers had all moved out. I’m only just understanding that effect. Dealing with the property settlement has bought lots of this up for us all. It made me feel pretty sad 😔 but grateful that he could talk about it with me. There were lots of the emotions expressed about how he felt and how he coped with it.
Well that’s my rant. I’m ok just a little solemn.
i read you have a good family weekend planned. I hope it has lots of good moments in it. 💜🤗
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SnowieSenior Contributor
@TeejI am glad it was a nice break away from everything. Its not the answer to everything but hopefully it helped a little.
@CheerBearhope you are having a good weekend with your crew.
Thinking of you both 
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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MaggieSenior Contributor
Hi back @outlander 💜💕
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Hello @outlander @Maggie @Snowie
@Teej Feeling for you in sharing about your son. I had feelings like that, to close off and protect them (my children) from being close to me during all my turmoil. It is hard to hear what your boy went through, but great that he could talk to you about it,
On a practical level, wearing leggings under pants and layers and coats and scarves inside is no longer that unusual for people who want to save on heating. Some of my students could afford it, but still would layer up before they would turn any heat on. I always have a cover on the couch to put over my lap etc ...and no longer put off putting extra layers on my bed. Will wear slippers in bed if needed.
Hugs
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
lol Thanks @outlander
You can buy something for everything these days ... I have my ole explorer sock ... but my footsies get so cosy in my new uggs ... they stay on in bed ...
I cant buy more stuff ... my house is not big enough.
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