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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Thanks @outlander . This one is in Photoshop, and my not-so-tech brain has to concentrate for stretches of time ..... but then I need to take a break to recover .....
I’ll be back 🎶
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Hi @outlander 👋
Have has problems with this thing. I might have lost some of my work from my USB, but I won’t lnow until I get to uni tomorrow to see if it’s saved there.
Never mind.
My kids have helped me with the work I am doing at home. My brain is mush with it all after the Easter break.
:face_with_rolling_eyes:
Are you still up ?
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The-red-centaurSenior Contributor
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outlanderSenior Contributor
@Faith-and-Hope i really hope all your stuff is on your usb! Mushy brains can be quite tricky to work with cant they but im sure your work is still great. Im thinking/hoping you may be heading to bed yourself...
Hi @The-red-centaur
Its just gone a bit quiet at my house so im hoping for abit of sleep. Goodnight to you both
🌹💕🌺💗
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The-red-centaurSenior Contributor
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
Hi all 👋
I am OK @Teej. Thanks for your encouraging, understanding words and for thinking of me yesterday. I had a feely day but sleep helps and so far today is mostly excited feelings 🙂
Here's a bit of a share/vent/connect/reach out moment - I didn't expect the feelings I had yesterday. I expected nerves and a bit of stress and lots of excitement. I thought I'd have frustration, and have had that, about how much easier it would be if I was parenting alongside a supportive other parent. If the little crew had another parent in the picture, stuff like work would be not as hard. They'd have someone else to call on if I wasn't there and something happened. The littles might not need after school care (and I might not have the stress that comes with getting them in to that). Big might not have to catch the bus home to an empty house for a couple of hours... that kind of thing. Most of the time it isn't even about having a supportive partner for me, it's about having another person to share the parenting load 😏 But that's life for us.
Yesterday sadness and fear crept up and that took me by surprise (which I don't like). I've gone about this recovery-from-what-happened stuff safely where not as much is at stake if it all explodes. But it has been a suffocatingly small existence, not a fulfilling, rewarding life. The more I step out and connect with the world and the more I rebuild, the more it would hurt if I lost it all again. I got myself muddled up in past experiences yesterday, feeling like I should never get too comfortable or let my guard down. It takes away from the great that is out there to enjoy. I hate that he has done that to me.
I'm well practiced now at riding the feelings out and that helps. Today I'm hopeful and looking forward to pushing myself and getting back into it all. It's my step back from being a client to being a worker. My counsellor made me laugh with a "welcome back to the dark side" knowing how difficult it has been for me to think about being part of it all again, but it is what I want to be doing deep inside. I'm guessing @Sans911 and a number of others might be able to relate to that too. It's hard to think about being part of a system that has, at times, really really hurt.
I didn't mean to write a big morning novel. There's so much 'stuff' going on it's hard not to talk little though.
I read your post @Teej, about what's going on for you. It sounds really tricky but like you're finding some workable way through it. I'm really hopeful for you.
@Zoe7thanks for your hugs yesterday. @outlander, @Faith-and-Hope, @Shaz51 and all - big ❤ I am looking forward to having more time next week to catch up properly.
I'm off for an exciting and kind of scary adventure day today, and it feels great. I wish I could say more but I will have to leave it at that. I've nearly made it through this wobbly week and the more I do of this the easier it will become (I hope lol 🤞).
Hope it's one with good for all ❤
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
@CheerBear Goodluck for today - hope it is awesome for you. Want to write more but needing to head off to work so will come back to your post this afternoon. Hugs and hugs for your day ahead CB 
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
ohhhh hello to everyone @Zoe7 , @CheerBear , @The-red-centaur , @outlander , @Faith-and-Hope , @Former-Member , @Teej , and anyone who i have missed xoxo
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