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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Hi @Teej Hoping you slept well and today is a lot better for you. Off to work now but will check in with you this afternoon. Many hugs and much love Teej 💜💙💚🧡💛
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TeejSenior Contributor
Thanks @CheerBear , @Zoe7 , @Faith-and-Hope, @MDT
im awake. Slept soooooo well. Not sure what to say just now. Have to shower soon and get going to see my therapist.
@CheerBear . Am here and ok if you need to vent. It’s likely to be a distraction for me. I also get if you are just working through stuff on your own.
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MDTSenior Contributor
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
@CheerBear I’m kind of glad you didn’t respond last night as I crashed pretty quickly and wouldn’t have seen it. I don’t think I saw much after I posted.
Im sorry that has all come up for you. It is so anxiety provoking and worrying when our kids have a big muddle. One of mine has a big thing going on and I’ve had to struggle to find how to support him, in that actually finding what kind support is helpful. It’s not gf related but has bought him home for a few days. I know the primary school hard stuff too. I don’t envy you with that. One of mine had school dramas all his life even though he was kind of a good student. The other one I had big bangs with at school and would dread the phone ringing in case it was school, which was often the case. Actually even the one of mine who is doing his PhD I had phone calls from school with as teachers misunderstood him when he was in primary and high school. Once they got to know and understand him it was ok. Thank you for that reminder. I hope my response helps you to not feel alone and thatthings will eventually sort themselves out even those muddles are so huge.
As for the other part im so glad you have landed on a soft cushion. It sounds like things with friend are very complicated just now. It sounds like you have lots more grieving to get through too. Sitting with you for all the heavy and sad that go with that.
I dont know what to think anymore @CheerBear with my therapist and psychiatrist. I want a middle between them. They are both right and both wrong on things if that makes sense. My psychiatrist is changing her report for only one thing, my diagnosis. She said she’d only gone off what previous psychiatrists had diagnosed me a long time ago. Both her diagnosis and my therapists have now come in line. Still a personality disorder but an unspecified one. The one where I’m a bit of a jack of all trades but master of none. It kind of means that there are traits of personality disorders that cause dysfunction but that they come from a few (more than two) personality disorders. I’m ok with this. It feels more true to me. There was a lot of stuff that went really badly yesterday and has left me feeling totally messed up and lost.
My therapist today will end up be divisive and I will feel more confused. Last week I learned some things that are making me wary. She will be on my side I know but .....and I don’t know what the buts will be yet but I know there will be some. I’d better go and shower.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Have read your posts @Teej @CheerBear and honestly think you are both doing an extremely good job in navigating all the tricky and bus smashing that you are dealing with.
@Teej I know you wanted to feel more 'human' today but we all here love you as you are and completely understand how hard it must be for you having your treating professionals seemingly disagreeing with some major things - they really need to pt any differences they have aside and talk in order to help you - and that is what they should be doing Hon because you not only deserve that help but should expect it. I hope your session today went better than you thought it would - we are here listening and supporting you with whatever happens.
@CheerBear It is not ideal that you have to have middle blowups when they get home. School should be a safe place where they feel wanted and cared for. I hope the teachers can see that it is impacting their enjoyment and learning and adjust their attitude and structure learning to cater for the very obvious differences that middle has. It mst be frustrating for you that middle's 'issues' are not being catered for. Do you have a team in place at the school to discuss what middle is going through and can help to put positive things in place?
I so hear you about the oopsie and the grief and loss that you still feel very much. It is great that you have found that soft cushion with this counsellor and can work through some of that - it never goes away Hon but it does become easier to deal with when you get the right support to voice all your feelings.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Hi @CheerBear @Teej @Zoe7 .....
I hope it’s okay to say this .....
Because PD’s have popped up on our landscape, I just want to say that I fell in love with someone who had PD traits, and those PD traits are in my kids, and I have family members on “my” side with either PD traits, or traits that have extended to interfering with their enjoyment and management of life with all it’s issues ..... which is the territory that seems to be labeled “disordered” ..... and in the hands of therapists, perhaps PD traits or disorders could be found in me ..... in fact, there may be some specialists for whom disorders lie in everyone .... and for them it’s just a matter of labelling them and providing support for them.
All I know is that the label doesn’t make the person, because they are still who they are / were, .... and they are people I love ..... and the challenges are in making the behaviours that are difficult to manage more manageable, both from within and from without .....
I love you guys too, and my life is richer for knowing you.
Please, please keep fighting to keep your therapists from getting under your skin and making you feel bad about who you are ..... so called weaknesses or issues under some conditions are strengths under others, and it’s been shocking on our home front to have judgements made with only half the story revealed and out of context at that ..... geez. Cause and effect, action and reaction all play a part.
Hugs n hugs to all of you, my gorgeouses .....
💜❤️💐💕❣️
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
My day was good @CheerBear Lots of positives (will write about it on ANC shortly) 
I am so pleased that the school has things in place for middle - it makes so much difference when the school is on board in targetting a kids passions and abilities whilst taking into account their difficulties too. It really sounds like they are doing everything they can to help you out. I had a giggle at you needing support for middle's support - it can often feel that way but that also does show me that the school really is putting a lot of things in place that will ultimately benefit middle.
This cushion counsellor really has come at a very good time for you and I hope they can help you through the feelings you are feeling - much love and many caring thoughts for what you are going through CB 
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