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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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TeejSenior Contributor
What! You have a crazy switch too @CheerBear 😜. On a serious note I think perhaps it’s ok to keep flipping too. I think in all honesty I would. Don’t forget your hormones are having a huge laugh just now and causing havoc. I’m also guessing that the doctors appointment make it more real in a way, could be wrong with that one too.
Maybe its its best to just say I’m having a crappy day and I’m going to put it away and self care.....and not let teej drag me in to thinking about it more 😘
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TeejSenior Contributor
PS @CheerBear am around if you do need to get stuff out. I can put my listening ears on 👂
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
That’s awesome to get to talk to your psych @CheerBear. I think it seems really sensible just now. I know it will will never be a 'right time' but I’m confident you’ll find a better time when it feels a little bit more right (or change of decision should you go down that path too).
I happened to hear something yesterday that kind of sat ok with me. Not sure that this is the right time to share it though. It was from my therapist when I went to pick up the christmas tree and it came about from her sharing with me some of her news. To which I asked her opinion.
The xmas tree was awesome and I got to pat a rescue animal of high magnitude cuteness and her other animals. It was a good visit.
You have so so much more flipping to do before you take my queen of flipping tiara 👸 off me 😘. Glad you giggled.
Edited. :face_with_rolling_eyes: nothing like copying and pasting something but then not cutting from the place you had it. 🤦♀️
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
Yep @CheerBear that 👸 is probably all yours 😘 ......for now, there’s always a possibility I’ll take it from you. I asked someone who is homeless if he wanted to live with me this week in a random moment of impulsiveness. Bet that shocked you. 😳😮. It’s ok it’s not set in stone. I got his number though and will give it consideration later. It’s someone from my group and he’s a lovely guy who I think could work out but I possibly need to think through it lots more. It’s not in a romantic way. I think he is about 15 yrs younger than me.
The thing she said was that there is that there is a difference between one conceived by choice and that by accident. That the second is that there is no intention of creating life, therefore creating life unintentionally could be interpreted as not having made that choice, therefore it is a reasonable thing to make a choice about. These are my words and interpretations of what she said. She has always told me a child doesn’t choose to come into this world. It’s our choice ultimately. She often told me this in the context of it was my responsibility to stay here for mine but raised it yesterday in this conversation. I guess it made sense to me. I know this line of thought could be controversial and argued against but for me it made sense.
pretty sure it’s mad pick up time for you. Hope that is not too heavy. 💜🤗
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
All the love I have coming your way this afternoon @CheerBear - just so you know I am listening and hearing you. Sometimes the decisions we have to make are the ones we don't want to make but which ever way you go here CB we are right with you, holding your hand and walking alongside you 💜💙💚🧡💛
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
If only this was a flip a coin type of situation for you @CheerBear - that would make it so much easier 
I like the idea of you seeing your psych to talk about how you are feeling - hopefully that can help you feel more okay with whatever decision you make CB - knowing here that there are no easy answers for you at all Hon.
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