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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
Sending so much love and gentle feelings to you, @CheerBear. The choice is clearly so painful for you. Once it is made and you have committed yourself one way or the other, the path will be clearer and much more doable. It will simply become part of who you are, which as we know always changes. It's natural to feel as anxious and troubled as you do at this time, in and of itself, let alone with all that has been happening around you lately. You will get past this into a better place. Please be gentle and kind to you. 
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
I think i need to ditto @Mazarita. She said it so well @CheerBear.
Have faith that things will become better once you’ve decided. I think the decision is heartachingly (new word) terrifying for you. You will get past it and it will be ok again. I know this is really big but I know you’ve got this. You can do it and go on without having to look back at the what if’s. They don’t have to be a part of your future whatever you decide. Hugs and lots of them. 💜
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
@CheerBear There are no words that can help with what you are going through right now CB so delivering some of these to let you know I am listening and care very much...
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
Good morning, @CheerBear. Just woke again at this quiet early time, wondering if you feel like a chat this morning. As always, I understand if you are not up to it, or are still sleeping or resting. Either way, sending love and gentle feelings your way.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
Sounds like you might have had some better sleep than usual overnight, @CheerBear, always a good thing to hear. I've had about four hours so far, will be getting more before too long.
Probably won't make it to art group today, but will be going out later in the day to my physio appointment at the hospital, which takes me about two hours travel for the round trip, same as yesterday. Need a little quieter time today, as yesterday was another big one, especially with video editing. Another very big day out coming up on Friday, looking forward to it but need to pace myself. Hoping to get some more total sleep today than I have over recent days, even if it means continuing to sleep much later today.
Hugs for your sheepish feelings. Glad you are continuing to share your feelings here and that this continues to be helpful to you at this time.
The morning where you are sounds so lovely. Nature is such a good friend to us at times, and so beautiful.
I'm good this morning, feeling upbeat on the whole about the busy-ness of things just now and, as usual, calm and relaxed in the early morning.
How are things for you today? What will you be doing if you feel like thinking that far ahead.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
Great news with the NDIS approval, @CheerBear. Hoping this really helps with everything in the long run. Sounds like a good approach to today, to explore more with the possibilities for you with the NDIS now, but no disappointment if that doesn't happen. An over the phone counselling session seems like it might be helpful and not too demanding of you while having a quieter day.
Funny thing about the psychiatrist session yesterday. After saying it was going to be hard to fit all my news in, I had one of the shortest and most to-the-point sessions with him ever! Condensed the major events for me over the past couple of months into a very short account, ending with I am feeling pretty good at this time now. We agreed no meds changes. We talked about the year past for a bit and a few other things and then I was out the door again and back on the bus. We were both happy enough about things with me that I won't see him until after the new year.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
It really is good news with the plan @Mazarita. I have to try and remember that this time is not forever, and keep hold of the things I want and need for my life beyond right at this moment. I'm sure my plan can help either way.
That's funny with the psychiatrist. Much better to have a short, to the point, helpful appointment than one that doesnt have time to cover it all! Curious to hear about your Friday plans, though only if you can/would like to share.
I had a highlight of the day yesterday that I just remembered. My muddled one has a best mate at school who recently told them they are gender non-binary. It was a big deal for both of them and their parents spoke with me first to give me a heads up, not that there was any concern from me at all. Yesterday mine was short and sharp with the doctor at their appointment, not hugely impressed by the whole thing. The doctor was trying to build rapport with them and find out how they are in lots of contexts, and asked about their friends at school and whether their best friend was a boy or girl. My little had no hesitation saying that they were non-binary. I could feel the surprise in the doctor and a moment of wondering what to say in response. It was a cool moment where I felt proud to have raised such a confident and open minded little one who in a way tripped up a paediatrician 😉
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