Just checking in.

I think any of us would be a kangaroo in your situation @CheerBear, and I know I have been at times when my kids were under fire for different reasons ..... I think there is definitely a place for rescue parenting.

Have an as-good-as-it-gets -at-the-moment-day both of you .... @CheerBear @Teej

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Just wanted to pop back in @CheerBear as something didn’t quite settle in my brain......as is often the case. I don’t think you are a kangaroo in the sense you said at all. Perhaps I see you differently. I think definitely dolphin knowing what I know but also kangaroo. Joeys jump in and out of their mothers pouch mostly by their choice until they are strong enough to join the mob which is what I think a mothers purpose is. My friend raised one by hand after the mother died. One day after she was fully grown and strong enough she took off with the local mob in her area and was never seen again. I think it’s innate that most beings become independent. It’s those whose parents don’t let them do anything and wrap them up in cotton wool that struggle. Thinking about a certain said broken arm recently and how you dealt with that I don’t think you have anything to worry about. If I was to look at my best friends I think we had a rhino, a kangaroo and a dolphin and now they are grown up they are all achieving and living about the same. They are all thriving. I also know of your decision making process for the next schooling stage and if that doesn’t flip out the water and make dolphin noises I don’t know what does 😘Yours will too......and because I’m thinking they’ve got your gritty determination and can do attitude. Not sure if you’ve had feedback whilst day to day arrangements are different but I can assure you you are doing the most amazing job.

Sending some strength and gritty determination to get through this really rough patch.

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and of course purple flowers because sometimes they are a bit comforting.

****Guess what my albums are not working properly too, this was not what I was looking for. When I go to my profile and my albums I have 78 photos in the flower album but when I went to upload to you I could only access 24 and a couple were from other albums. 🤔. Is this the issue you were having? I’m heading out for a while now and hope your day is going better. 💜🤗

So agreed .... ❣️

@CheerBear @Teej

Just been trouble shooting. Not sure if this will work for you but I just made my flowers album public instead of hidden to see if that changed anything @CheerBear. I can now access my full album but there is a few strays that don’t show up in my profile albums when I look. At least it’s a step in the right direction.

First time I can post this from an album.

Writing at the same time @CheerBear...you can tell my brain is in overdrive with problem solving :face_with_rolling_eyes:. I’m glad it helped. It is all true and I hope you can find belief in it too. To tell the truth it’s only just this year that I have any confidence to write stuff as a mum and that’s because I’m at the other end and see the light. Trust your instincts, they are good 👍🏻💜🤗😘

Mega hugs @CheerBear ,..,,

🤗😔🤗😔🤗😔🤗😔🤗😔🤗😔🤗😔 ..... 💐💐💐💕

As yuck and ugly as it is, I am celebrating for you that it has been caught, and it has been caught early ...... and there is support ..... and there will be learning and healing that will make things better in life going forwards.

There will I’ll be learning about health, and emotional health, and learning to channel hurts and insecurities into positive channels instead of ones that cause you harm, and there will be learning of strategies and coping skills that will carry forward into adulthood as lessons from the past ......

Take a deep breath, dear @CheerBear ..... and swim, knowing that you have achieved that early detection and support and change, and it was not in any way your fault or something you missed ......

We have interacted with specialists with their eyes wide shut, and there is a boundary that says mine is an adult and entitled to self-determine something that they are not recognising for what it is ......

I walk with you. You don’t need to get your brace on. It’s there, and it leaks out under pressure ..... and it sits under fruit trees drinking tea to recover its strength when it needs to ..... and then it braves on ......

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It’s not something I would wish on anybody @CheerBear .... and I had a lump in my throat and a tear in my eye as I wrote it .....

The fear and grief has to spill somewhere, and as long as you don’t scrub and mop until you are unwell with it, cleaning is a healthy enough outlet ..... and outlet in healthy ways you must, because what you are witnessing is outlet in unhealthy ways ...... and that’s what happens when it doesn’t know what else to do. And you don’t see it coming. They don’t see it coming. It’s nobody’s fault.

There will be things you will be advised by your support people, so I am confirming from another direction that this is right ..... and one of those is to start reading about it .... learn how it thinks, and what the stages are. It actually makes things a little less scary, because “it’s better the devil you know .....” and “forewarned is forearmed”. You will also need to be able to separate the person you know and love from the person they seem to be behaving as ..... because that is actually the condition masquerading itself through them, and the one you love needs to know that you can see through the masquerade, and you love them no matter what ..... and you do ..... you know you do.

Just keep doing what you do. Hold the goalposts in their place. Go about the business of life ..... shop, cook, clean, school run, turn up the radio and sing ..... have a life beyond what this thing tries to do, and show the one you love that the condition can’t take it from you ..... and that will be their way forward too .....

Hold tight sister-bear ..... walking with you.

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