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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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TeejSenior Contributor
So sorry about the wait @CheerBear, that is really hard. I went through something like you but not quite as touch and go last November when my dad had heart surgery. It’s agonising during the wait for info. Like you, I couldn’t go in for about 4 days because I was unwell. Crossing everything for you. 🙏🤞🏻
No im very rarely awake just now. I have had a rocky nights sleep. I will go back again for some more sleep later.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
Are you up for some distracting news @CheerBear? It’s kind of positive and not sure if you are needing a distraction.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
Yeah. I must say I was blessed during that time that my brother flew over and stayed at their house so I had time to deal with everything the best way possible. He took the brunt of looking after mum. @CheerBear. I have to say it change him for the better. Ones mortality can have a profound effect I think.
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TeejSenior Contributor
Ok. Yesterday I had lunch out with old best friend and the friend I have thankfully in my life. The three of us were always close. This is the one who was a victim and who I have have been grieving and feeling so much regret for @CheerBear.
We ended up talking openly about it and disclosing stuff after 7 years. I started crying before I could speak and she was so surprised at my emotion. I got to tell her how sorry I was and how many regrets I have for bringing him back into her life.
We talked about all things including asking her if she remembered the anniversary date (this is someone who doesn’t remember any dates whatsoever). She did but freaked out when I told her it was seven years. It was a huge step for both of us. It’s not going to bring us back as close as we were but it’s cleared the air for maybe some healing for both of us.
Just tagging @Faith-and-Hope because she’s put up with this saga for years too.
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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TeejSenior Contributor
Maybe a little @CheerBear. I think it’s also hormonal. I woke up with night sweats and it’s hard to go back to sleep. Gotta love perimenpause. Just you wait 😘.
I think last night when I got home I had the million miles an hour thing going on replaying it all. I want to write a letter putting things down without emotion brain fogging it all.
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TeejSenior Contributor
Lol I just read my post and giggled. I saw my perimenpause and checked out the meaning of peri. One of them was "about”. I think about - pause in men sums it up nicely. Also perimenopause sucks 😜 @CheerBear
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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