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I thought I'd start a discussion where we can check in with members and use this space to keep in contact. It's a space to be able to say how you really feel and it's a space for the good, the bad and the ugly moments in our lives.
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TeejSenior Contributor
Just checking in @CheerBear. Not sure if you are around. I read that things are really wobbly in your world with things out side your control. Wondering if you are around for a chat.
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TeejSenior Contributor
Hiya @Zoe7. I’ve had a quick look to see you’ve had a pretty productive day. Mine not so much. Will try a bit later to do the mountain of dishes (mostly not mine but it’s crazy time at uni so they is frenzied eating followed by leaving it all there). It will get better soon, only a few more weeks until completes her degree and my son will be mostly done with a few electives next year. This is his worst semester as far as intensity goes.
I hope you can get the ball rolling with work again soon. Do the kids go back this week? We have another week of school holidays.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
Another week of school holidays here too @Teej Hopefully the weather will stay nice and I can get to the beach again this week. Have my last session of DBT for the current module this week then a week off until we start again. It will be good to have a break whilst things are still being sorted out with work. My GP and pdoc are away for another week so I just need to wait. It is giving me more time to do a few things at home = now that I have a little energy to do them (some days I do anyway). I know going back to work will be tiring in different ways - so I need to be prepared for the first couple of weeks to be not only exhausting but most likely triggering as well. I feel like I am dealing with those triggers a lot better now though.
I remember those times at uni - eat on the run and when you could. The washing up can wait - I have mine to do too but that is not a priority right now.
I am hoping to wait a little tonight but the day is getting away from me quite quickly - see how I feel over the next hour or so.
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Hi @Zoe7 @Teej ...... 🤗👋💕
Message for @CheerBear ...,
I missed your post the other day ..... I am slowly making my way back through posts I missed cos things sped up to hurricane-force there for a few days ..... just all hands on deck rather than too much going wrong ......
I wanted to acknowledge your feelings and questions regarding your little fish ..... not for the mention of ED although you know that is big on our landscape, but for the fact that I missed it with my S2 before he was in deep water and struggling to swim or even float ..... your questions were my questions ..... the confusion and distress are tangible, but you are doing all you can do ..... modelling the taking of forward steps in the day you are in. Whether we miss things or not ..... they can happen ..... and even the not missing things, like I have not missed the things happening with my mr., doesn’t mean they would have been resolved by early noticing. I have come to learn that once germinated, some things will grow in a certain direction irrespective of whatever we do to try to change them, because the bearer of them is doing the growing, and we are on the outside of that.
What we we can do is keep loving, keep supporting, take them to the psych appointments (if they are not a full grown man with no insight) and keep modelling whatever you can that is pointing / moving in the right direction. Germination requires the coming together of a set of circumstances, often things we are not even aware could lead there, and can be present without ever leading there ..... so please don’t hold yourself to guilty feelings. You have only ever done the best you could do, because that is who you are ..... and it’s flagged now .....
Mega-hugs and walking with you ......
❤️
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TeejSenior Contributor
Am heading out to take my poor dog @Zoe7 for a walk. It’s been another day where he has had little stimulation and is crying out for some . Will catch up later because I have something to ask you......just minor things about how you cope with stuff.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
I'll be around @Teej so ask away - happy to help if I can Hon 
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor
Hey @CheerBear .... sounds like you are doing an amazing job of hurdling the unexpected issues in the moment ..... really important that you loosen the cap ever so slightly on those bottled volcano insides occasionally to manage long term, but that is exactly what you are doing by giggling at memes and jokes .... the body speaks a different emotional language to the brain, I have found, and you can experience physical symptoms you didn’t anticipate ....
There is a cartoon called Heart vs Brain or something similar. I will see if I can find it for you.
Hugs n hugs ..... 💜🌈💐💕
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CheerBearSenior Contributor
Thank you again @Faith-and-Hope. You are fab. It's so helpful to feel your calm and experienced presence 💗
Love that you mentioned hesrt vs brain. I've been a fan for a while as I feel that push pull between them both. Over time the writer has added in other parts, like gut, making it even more relatable I think.
This one has been me, and I imagine many others here, lots
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TeejSenior Contributor
I’m so glad you are getting a reprieve today to breathe @CheerBear, although from what I just read that is not easy either. Nothing like not being able to breathe physically when you are trying to catch your breath mentally 🤧
Its awesome to see you holding together. You must have volcano island in your house just now, I’d say not just with you. I really am feeling for you. You are doing so well, I’d be 6ft under by now if I was in your shoes.
I had had a rough week in the end, I think it’s been one of my messier ones. Yesterday I lost it completely. My volcano just kept erupting until I rang CATT as a last resort. It was not helpful at the time and I so desperately wanted to sh (actually suicide really) but I didn’t (doh I’m writing this) . They did however completely erupt my volcano until I was exhausted and physically not able to move and fell asleep. I was pretty angry/hurt at the call.
I couldnt find much traction when I woke up. It all came back up again until my protective factor no4 came home unexpectedly.
So here is what I would like to ask you and @Zoe7, @Sans911 and anyone else.
What do you do when your sensitivities are sky high? What do you do when you get triggered because you are extra sensitive? I know when I’m there but it always feels bigger than me. It’s taken 6 days for my mood to be ok so I am able to function a bit. Even when I was in full emotion mind yesterday I could see the logical parts and that I was over reacting but couldn’t change it. Emotions trumped thinking again and I have had to ride it all out ........FOR 5 DAYS. I’ve been a complete lost cause.
My trigger yesterday was the big ones talking of moving out again. I just lost it. It came on top of another shame dream and all I could think of is if I wasn’t so pathetic she would be happy to stay here. The shame ate me alive as did the fear of abandonment.
I would love to hear anyone’s thoughts. I am ok today. I’ve only had 1.5 hours sleep but my mood is ok. I am going to the movies with my friend later today, so I’m trying the human thing 🤦♀️, not quite so 👸.
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