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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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what keeps you going xx
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
Dear @Former-Member
You are not silly but yes, I have been there. I have no problsms telling people that my oldest son is a drug user and refuses to take medication .....
It takes a while to get used to.....I will admit. I will do anything to take care of myself. I admit to others I'm on medication. I have done Nothing with my life....
Even on Sane Forums, I'm too busy discussing the colours I love to look at (lol)
Sweetheart, see a Psychologist, go and see a movie, go shopping. Take back something to target. Do whatever makes you feel good. Go to Arafmi, go to an agency who believe in self medicating and someone spedning times in mental ill health. Whatever you do, only get involved with someone's problems if it is safe.
From myself: your husband is doing the wrong thing. This is going to come back and bite him in the ........
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NikNikSenior Contributor
Hi @Former-Member
That sounds like a lot to manage. Keeping with the topic of this discussion - I'm wondering what has kept you going as a carer?
Sharing the things that have helped you keep going, may help other carers too.
Take care,
Nik
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NikNikSenior Contributor
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
Dear @Former-Member
I've just got back from taking doggie to park....your sttories are shocking, I read a bit to my husband and he said that your sonm was abused.
I want to get back to reading......
You are going to be fine. You need to forgive yourself for crying so much.....it's very difficult to accept change when you don't expect it ......
Ille keep on reading........
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
What keeps me going @NikNik
My Love for my Husband 
How about you
@Bacon @BrookeL @Butwhy @dancer @davidharper_bal @Diramu @JennyK1 @Lillybobtail @Litam @Lizzy @Lochlyn @LonelyGal @mohill @mylife83 @neil @Pocoyo @Sagher @Sathish @Sonnet116 @sophie3 @Struggling36 @Summer22 @susansmith @zikki
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BossandSqueezyContributor
Dear @PeppiPatty,
I'm so glad you liked the quote. It is so true for myself and many other women like you who travel through tough times. I am a very solitary person. After a pretty horrendous assault, I spent ten months in hospital and since then (5 years ago), I haven't left my house alone. Mostly I am just at home, afraid to face the world (people really). The quote is true for me because I don't let anyone see my pain or see me cry. It's been a difficult time for me and my 5 grown children who don't understand my suicidality. I mentioned the need to change in my last reply. Well..... I need to change but not really sure how. And yes, from what I read in your blog, I thought the quote might just resonate with you too. Take care.......
Love,
BossandSqueezy
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
Hi @BossandSqueezy
( Just a tic....) hello @Shaz51 my special friend x
Hi @BossandSqueezy
I read your last message to me about your 5 children......unfortunately they remind me of 2 of my brothers and their wives. It's heartbreaking.
Can we both just sit with this knowledge ? Lets be kind to ourselves to get through the day and to them. You will help me as well,
PeppiPaatty
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hello @PeppiPatty @Shaz51
they are all on holidays.
they were all there i had so much help when son first detained. holding me up with words
now they are all on holidays. now i am dropped
i am left on my own with the pain as always happens.
i cant leave the house
i want to hear from him so badly but am so scared that he might ring because he has run out of money.
i have written and written and written on here and half of it i cant find or dont remember.
what is the point of having all these people with appointments for the end of this month and next month.
not one person has given me strategies for if he does ring.
i dont think they know what to say to me or know what to do with me. I think that they are frightened of me as I am frightened of my son.
all i have done is bleat on and on about my pain.
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PeppiPattySenior Contributor
Dearest @Former-Member
You do what you need to but you could see your Gp and access HACk for support Workers. Me and @Former-Member get support workers in to manage.
I need to go to settle my husband butI will just suggest writing a routine on your fridge
IE;
8am wake
8.30 shower, meds, coffee
9am breakfast
Then we can write about other strategies
PP
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