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I am incredibly stressed right now. Not doing well. Don't know what to do.

JlolSenior Contributor02 Aug 2023, 4:38 pm AEST

I am incredibly stressed right now. Not doing well. Don't know what to do.

I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship. This has given me/contributed towards C-PTSD. I've been seeing a therapist about this but it's opened a lot of wounds and been very tough. As part of my safety plan I've been calling Lifeline whenever I feel really, really down.

To make a long story short, yesterday I got a random phone call from the hospital's mental health team saying that Lifeline contacted the police, who contacted them saying that I had said something threatening towards my landlord in response to them raising the rent. The thing is I don't have a landlord as I own where I live, with a mortgage and have done for many years. More about this here https://saneforums.org/t5/Something-s-not-right/Help-I-got-a-call-from-the-hospital-saying-Lifeline-called-them/m-p/1323166

I've contacted Lifeline and the Acute care team trying to sort this out, but to say they've been unhelpful is an understatement. Both have been downright dismissive, with the Acute care team not wanting to give me any further information and Lifeline saying they cannot look up call logs in their system without me giving them the date and time of this call (which I cannot do since I did not make the call and the Acute care team refuse to give me any more information about it).

I feel so distraught. I feel very wronged and that no one wants to listen to me. This issue isn't a "he said/she said" thing, it literally doesn't make sense that I would say this.

The stress is immense. I have to go to work like normal, all the while thinking about this. I have to keep it from my partner or else she'll blow up. I'm scared, I can't eat and havent slept in close to 48 hours.

I just don't know how I can keep this up. I'm so drained and so disappointed that there doesn't seem to be any support out there - can't call LL, can't engage with the MH team, can't talk to friends about this, can't talk to my family. I'm so burnt out.

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JynxModerator02 Aug 2023, 5:32 pm AEST

Re: I am incredibly stressed right now. Not doing well. Don't know what to do.

Wow @Jlol that is such a massive conundrum, and I can totally understand why it's stressing you out so much. Can imagine it feels like you've been thrown under the bus, and caught up in something that hasn't got anything to do with you - perhaps they've gotten you (or your file or whatever) confused with someone completely different.

In terms of options for support, you could potentially contact LegalAid - it's a free call, and they operate state by state so if you google legal aid + the state you live in, the relevant website should pop up. Another option is to contact your state's mental health advocacy service.

If you wanted to, you can also contact our support line to talk the situation through with someone - call 1800 187 263 any time Mon-Fri, 10am-8pm. You can also get in touch with 1800RESPECT if you would like to chat to someone about the abuse in your relationship.

I hope these options give you somewhere to turn to and help you to work out next steps. You don't deserve to go through this alone, especially as it sounds like it's far from being your fault. Be gentle with yourself too, and maybe if possible, take a day or two off work to give yourself some space to breathe, contact some of the above, and practice some self-care along the way.

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