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Winter solstice

Winter solstice

Longest night of the year and the darkness and coldness have really hit. Things seem really bleak. I've been struggling for a long time and was pacing myself to this point but can't see beyond it. I'm safe but despairing. I'm trapped in a vortex of family dysfunction from earliest years and emotional pain, received and (mea culpa) inflicted. I can't help my closest sibling - all others are estranged - and I don't seem able to extricate myself from personal difficulties and dilemmas that at present ďefine me - I have no connections or other identity. I've lost faith in my mh team.

I guess the sun will rise tomorrow, and I'll keep taking one day at a time, but I can't envision a future, my future.

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It's good thanks @tyme . My sight is quite a lot better but it's not the dramatic improvement some speak of. For me the miracle was getting through it successfully after having had very bad experiences with the other eye.

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I am soo glad your eye op went well @Dimity 🥰

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Sounds pretty traumatic @Dimity . It's pretty brave of you to continue with the other eye considering what happened with the first surgery. Good on you!

@Shaz51 , do you think they just don't understand, and hence they put their 2 cents worth into it? Or, is it just part of who they are in that whatever you say, they will tell you what you should've, could've, would've done?

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@tyme

I think your message covers all my different family members

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Hugs @Shaz51 just do what you need to do

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Goodnight @Dimity @tyme 🥰

Hope you both have a good sleep

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Goodnight @Shaz51 take care

Goodnight @tyme @NatureLover

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Hi @Dimity , I am still so glad your eyesight has improved 🙂 But hadn't realised that some people had mentioned more dramatic improvements.

I'm sending wishes you don't feel too overwhelmed with facing the tasks you're dreading 🤞

Very sadly, a lot of trees have been cut down in the empty lot next door to me. Including nectarine and cherry plum trees. I'm sad for the trees, plus it's destroyed quite a lot of my privacy. I will have to go back to Bunnings for a lot more shadecloth for the fence. I have a lot of outdoor furniture - actually indoor furniture that wouldn't fit in the house and is on my verandah. I don't want any of that stolen.

I hope you can have a good weekend despite this miserable weather.

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@NatureLover I shouldn't carp. My eyesight is indeed very much better and I'll just need to continue with magnifiers and good light for reading small print.

It's very sad you've lost your adjoining trees. fior the outlook and the privacy. Are you attached to all the extra furniture or could you let some go?

Yes the slog continues, and I'm under a bit of pressure from opposing viewpoints from a couple of family members. I'll probably revert to chipping away with no real idea of longterm goals, which annoys them.

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@Dimity I'm sad to hear that family members have been putting pressure on you. 😣 You put plenty of pressure on yourself, so don't need that!

I'm pretty attached to the outdoor furniture. There's a couch I like to sit on that gets the sun, plus a dining table and chairs that I use throughout the year for sorting and doing things on like building the shelves this morning.

Am so pleased your eyesight has improved...it was a very brave thing that you did, going ahead with the surgery.

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