@Dimity Gentle hugs. I have found it helps me remember someone's needs when they wear a badge like that. There is a lady at chapel who wears them. Cos often we forget, even while talking. Maybe its just my general social overwhelm. I am slow at new names etc etc. I need to meet a person a few times to remember. It can take a while to know the unique person and their issues.
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@AuntGlow I have a decent psychologist, a decent psychiatrist, a decent physiotherapist, and 2 decent support workers. So I do have a better team for me than ever before in my life. I see them different amounts; from weekly to ever few months. So yes grateful. I dont have a gp whom I trust, but will need to go to one soon for bloodpressure script. It actually takes a while to be able to know who is trustworthy, when we present as a complex client. I had been open, hopeful and trusting before, but now, am more than once burnt, twice shy. I now know personally what my father and siblings dealt with. Because I have now so many subjects in my personal life that are taboo for normal light social sharing, I have to be very circumscribed.
I have been networking with other mental health practitioners on a collegial level and that helps. Nobody to call on for when I have a crisis, so mostly I ensure that I do not have one. Actually that is how I have functioned most of my life.
I had a 3 hour shift with a support worker lady this morning. She is about 10 years younger than I. I showed her a couple of my photo albums of early parenting years. She asked me if she had been too bossy for me. I said yes, she had been, but I had a much worse bossier controlling lady before her and so just worked around it, that she wasnt that bad. She apologised and asked me to tell her next time if she boss. She came fortnightly for almost 2 years, and actually knows my home, my son and our cats and knows our characters are decent. It has taken this long for her to properly understand the complexities I have experienced. We usually talk and do an hour or 2 of cleaning together. Because I was abused by a couple of cleaners. I no longer want to let cleaners into my house without them have actual respect for us. They dont get to be nosy, and take advantage of our goodwill or see how we live. We have to be careful about what we call actual care. I know I give a lot to all the humans I interact with, whether I am being paid or they are being paid, or no money changes hands. If they are being paid, there is complete requirement for respect, as well as job done. I wish I did not cost the taxpayer anything, but go with what is minimal, reasonable and necessary.
