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StumpCasual Contributor
Yeah hi, um.. I've never been good at communicating.
I've had a few cancers and was abandoned by my gp . Spent the next few yrs being surgically experimented on. Now I live in constant fear of what's next. Still don't have a gp. Too scared to join a clinic. I know I need help, I just find it hard to burden someone with asking.
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Unknown userMember
Hi @Stump
Glad to see you communicated well in a neat summary on the forum.
Brilliant. Clear. Precise
I hear your frustration.
Sometimes a fresh GP is good. A new set of eyes. In your case you need one.
You are as important as anyone else in this country to see a GP and hopefully eliminate the cancers.
I am not sure why you feel a burden for getting help.
Happy if you want to elaborate.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Lots of surgery would put me off too @Stump
Going thru my own gp problem ... but as @Former-Member said ... fresh new eyes ... may help
Take Care of you
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StumpCasual Contributor
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Unknown userMember
Hi @Stump
OBVIOUSLY. Hmmm
Obviously after a few attempts you can reply.
Fantastic. No one cares how long it takes. Sometimes because of work etc you may not get a reply for a few hours.
I do not say it is Obvious no GP wants to see you.
I do not see how you concluded you are a burden and to who?
You do not have to answer but this is more for you to think about.
Why do you think they are scared of you or your situation?
Persist. Find a GP you relate to.
Same with help lines. Most people are great. Some average. Some not helpful.
Hang in there.
I hate changing GP or Dentist. Some hate changing hairdressers.
I invite you to persist.
Find the help you deserve. You are not a burden.
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tymeModerator
Hey @Stump ,
Good on your for reaching out here on the forums.
Well done 🙂
I hope you find the support and connection helpful in your life journey.
See you around 🙂
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StumpCasual Contributor
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Unknown userMember
Hi @Stump
So what do you do when you need a break from everything?
You do not have to answer.
If as you suggest you are a burden, do you chat to anyone?
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StumpCasual Contributor
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Unknown userMember
Hi @Stump
When l need a break l go to a friends land and mow lawns etc.
No power.
I love it.
So sometimes as you say, leave the phone behind, or off and nearby can help.
Chatting with someone. I think this forum is chatting. It is anonymous.
Some agree with inputs.
Others have other ideas.
I hope you chat here. Not all replies are instant.
On this forum many sort out issues or coping strategies different ways.
I hope you make your own mix of strategies.
The journey is often painful but also interesting if we focus on moving forward
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Unknown userMember
Hi @Stump
I appreciate you situation is rare and I feel for you
I looked a bit up to understand more.
See we all learn from each other
You are not a burden on this Forum
People will be happy to chat here whenever you want.
If you are not happy with the GP, please try another. They will probably start from point "A" again.
Be patient. Patience is very hard.
Stay in touch!
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