Just anxious out of nowhere

Okay @ArraDreaming thanks for reminding me. I think if you need to keep chatting and getting support so you're not alone in this you could possibly stay a bit longer - but also maybe taking a breather or chatting to partner (or helpline if you think it could help) could be the way to go. Thanks for being open with us tonight, not easy to be vulnerable sometimes. I wish you big piles of soothing vibes and hope that tomorrow is better for you. 💜

Hi @ArraDreaming

Good night.

Thanks

Hi @ArraDreaming

I think you did really well with your answers to the questions people asked yesterday - I am impressed truly - you have come a long way,

You understand that you need help from the people in your real life - so true - if they understand that you have anxiety at levels that make it hard to communicate that's a good start - and I get it that you don't know what causes this - it also makes you feel rotten afterwards as well as during - I really understand that.

Something triggers this off - at this stage you don't know what - you do know you need to get outside into the fresh air though - so that's one way of handling it. Your work would keep you outside a lot as well - so that's a good thing.

I know my dental phobia started when I had a hard time with a very rough dentist in the Dental Hospital - well - maybe 40 years ago now - when I felt completely helpless - I understand why that would cause a phobia - I am used to my own dentist - still - when I have had to have a tooth out I freak out - I have learned to express this though.

The degree is harder to communicate - I have been aware you have been struggling with that on-line - so there has been a space between what you are saying and what we can grasps - yesterday shows an advance in that.

For me - I think the feelings of helplessness stem further back into my early childhood when I need a simple procedure under chloroform - my mother told me later she didn't tell me about it in advance because I might worry - I would have coped with it all had I known what was going to happen - I fought the doctors and nurses with the mask - I was three years old - actually I am proud of the battle I put up - still - the fears and helplessness stuck and it's only during the last few days I have connected it all - and a lot of this has been due to you and I would like to thank you for that.

I am seeing another dental surgeon week after next - I will let you know if my extra awareness about this helps.

In the meantime I would like to say how well you write about horticulture - it gave me a whole new grasp of you and your life - you are a good writer - this job is important to you - and so is your family

All the best Jay

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Hi @ArraDreaming

Nice hearing from you.

You have nothing to say sorry for.

Past posts before we chatted you went All Capitals and many small messages.

Whatever bought it on you were calm.

I am so proud of you Jay5. You handled yourself so well.

I tried keeping messages short. We all try differently. When l had things going on the long messages made me worse.

But you responded to both of us in a calm way.

I hope we chat again.

It is 10.00pm so do not reply because 10.00pm is your limit l think

I feel so good knowing you are fine.

You did not do anything wrong according to me.