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Ann4Casual Contributor
Hiya, hoping I can connect with others who are struggling. I live a very isolated life because of past trauma. Just want to experience some kind of kinship with others like me. I am taking anti anxiety medication, never been hospitalised.
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Ann4Casual Contributor
Only EMDR at the moment @Little_Leopard, it’s worked for me but haven’t done all the memories yet. It’s embarrassing & humiliating when you attack people & then have to apologise, but inevitably get cancelled. My sons have trouble accepting the anger, 2 of them are great & supportive, but one has chronic anger issues himself, he modelled his behaviour on me. I’m a pitiful human being!
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BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor
Hi @Ann4 ,
I’ve sort of isolated myself from people because of past trauma. Trust is a huge issue for me. When I meet or see people, I automatically go into a negative gear and point out all the negatives- I think this is a way of coping with perceived threat.
i hate it at times, yet I also see it protects me from further hurt.
i can’t say people understand me though. I’d anything, they misunderstand why I do it - and it hurts like hell.
You are not alone @Ann4 . I feel I’m in that place too.
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WendyGBNew Contributor
Thanks @BPDSurvivor - it’s hard when u continue to embarrass yourself with outbursts! I don’t know how to control it - distraction can work. I just want to cry afterwards….
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tymeModerator
Hey @WendyGB ,
Welcome to the forums. It sounds like BPD is part of your life too? (As with many others here too).
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BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor
I agree @WendyGB . So embarrassing. It’s like an adult in foetal position crying their eyes out over something so minute eg someone didn’t say ‘hi’ to me.
But honestly, if they only knew the internal turmoil a borderline is experiencing, they might get it… unfortunately, most don’t get it.
Oh @WendyGB @Ann4 , at least we know we are not alone.
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BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor
Hey @Ann4 @WendyGB @Little_Leopard , How is everyone here tonight?
It's been so cold here so I'm in my warm bed with my electric blanket on.
I had a good day today. How about you all?
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Little_LeopardSenior Contributor
Hey @BPDSurvivor
so glad you had a good day today.
I can’t remember much of my day but this morning was stressful. Im also in bed with the heater on. Nothing better than a warm bed in the cold weather.
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WendyGBNew Contributor
Cold morning in Melbourne, I’m going put the electric blanket back on my bed. Nice to see snow on the mountains (ABC news)
good yesterday, not today - not much sleep….
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BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor
Gday everyone here @WendyGB @Ann4 @Little_Leopard @tyme
hope you are all well.
Anything special happening in ur lives?
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