Hope fading

@tyme @appleblossom My daughter (20) has mental illness that is causing chaos in her life. She is homeless (4th time in the past year and a half), unable to live independently or with others, unable to keep jobs anymore, has very little self care, can't sleep, self medicates with whatever she can find (not sure if she's trying hard drugs but she's mixing with some very scary people and been in some very frightening situations lately), self harms (has even been in hospital and released shortly after surgery because 'she wanted to go' and because she 'presented well' regardless of me explaining to nurses what was really going on with her mentally and pleading and begging for further intervention), restrictive eating, end of life threats (for a while it was weekly threats at all times of the night or day), defiant, compulsive and so much more. She says that the services she is presenting to have no accommodation for her unless she pays a contribution. She has no money. She is giving up. I am pretty much her only contact and I have to limit that as it's exhausting beyond belief. Her dad can't communicate with her at all and same with most of the family. Everyone is cutting off to protect their own mental health. We are all at breaking point. I have counselling and am told to not enable (give no money and don't try to save her). Just be there to listen. Easier said than done. I feel like a traitor and a complete failure. I am broken. I have done everything and more and still nothing seems to work. At my daughter's request earlier this year I arranged an appointment with a psychiatrist. That appointment is finally in four weeks. I don't know if this doctor has experience with personality disorders (that's what we think she has apart from her OCD diagnosis and potential ADHD). I'm so scared she will end her life. She seems to be giving up. She's not living she's existing. I'm sure this story is not unfamiliar with some of you. Why can't these beautiful young people get the help they need before it comes to this?