What stops you?

Hello @PurpleFlowers xx how are you today

hope you are ok ?/

Hello @Shaz51

Thank you for asking. I am having a difficult day with feelings of sadness and lonliness. The sadness is around grief and loss and the lonliness is I dont have others who can listen to me in a way that is useful or nuturing of me. I may seek professional help at some stage but not atm. I am a very caring person and have a strong ability to listen, care and nuture others but in my life I do not seem to have the same in return. I accept some do not have the ability to be in that role, nonetheless it is painful and lonely. The hardships keep coming, however, I am very resilient for having lived through some terrible experiences. I have one daugther in her 20's and I love her so very much and over all the years, particularly when I have felt suicidal I focus on her and know how much it would burden her for the rest of her life and so I find ways to distract. I do acknowledge how hard and real that thought space is because life can be very difficult. Being on this site for a week or so has shown me an enormous of courage from those sharing on hear and just as big an amount of care and understanding from others. I feel a sense of hope from recently discovering this forum. Thank you again for asking me. Wondering how you are going as well @Shaz51. Take care:)

I was walking yesterday,and had severe distress because I wondered what my son or daughter would have looked like if I had a child .I can see Purple Flower through discussions on this forum we all have a common trait that we are ones who would go a mile to help or please someone and somewhere along the way these experiences damaged us.I have had one hardship after the otherin the past 4 years,nothing has gone right,,and it's hard to live with.I have no friends due to my mental illness,unemployment,and my avoidance at not wanting to talk to people .As I stated,what stops me some days I don't know.Thanks to Shaz51 for thinking of me and others.

Hello @PurpleFlowers, @Former-Member xx

sending you hugs

Remember you are not alone and we are here for you

thank you for asking how you are going , -- One day at a time here my friend xx

Thanks for thinking of us.Im in a bad way today,severe distress,where I have to actually stop myself.

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@Shaz51 wrote:

Hello @PurpleFlowers, @Former-Member xx

sending you hugs

Remember you are not alone and we are here for you

thank you for asking how you are going , -- One day at a time here my friend xx

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Thanks for thinking of us.Im in a bad way today,severe distress,where I have to actually stop myself.This is the resource you wonder if you have any left.

Hello @Former-Member, my friend xx

Sorry to hear you are in a bad way today,severe distress my friend

Is there something you can do to try to take your mind off what you are thinking

I know how you feel , we have no friends because of my husband`s Mi , and I myself I can`t have children which i have found hard at times and it has been hard for my mum too

but we need to take one day at a time , to see what we have got

keep writting my friend , we are hee for you

Hello @BOD, @PurpleFlowers, @Heart, @Arjay

Hello @NikNik, @Former-Member, @Former-Member, @CherryBomb, @Appleblossom, @Faith-and-Hope

Hi @Former-Member .... welcome to the forums .... 🌷💜.

Hi @PurpleFlowers.

You're definitely not alone. There are others here who struggle like you do and we can all help you find your way forward. Walk with us ... as we will with you.

Honestly, I think about my mum and how she would have to be medicated for the rest of her life if I took my own.. I also think about how I could paralyze, disable, permanently damage my self physically and more so mentally if I tried and failed... Still struggle with it daily but try and put those things at the forefront of my mind.

Welcome to the forums @straightnarrow .... 🌷💜

I think checks and balances that make us think twice are important. It can be really hard to move forward from a bad experience or a bad place in life .... but it is so worth persevering to find the light .... to breathe .... to learn to climb above and beyond what happened and create a new future.

And it's so important to connect with others, to understand we are not alone.

It's good to meet you. I hope you find kindred spirits here ....

F&H 🌿