Diagnosis today

with tongue in cheek i say OI! don't label those of us with bpd as rejects 😛 I know what you mean though.. its an awful feeling, its a burdon of its own. I have a similar diagnosis but with cptsd added in. I was so scared of what it meant and the ramifications of it... still am when it comes to family court stuff.. but i have gained some more perspective. nothing really has changed just because the words were written... in my daily life at least. I spent some time talking with my psychologist about it (took me ages to let her know how much the whole bpd label was worrying me) and she went through what aspects of it she saw in me, what we could do about it etc... reassured me that i wasn't an awful person etc...

I'm so sorry to hear about your most recent experiences. You've been through so much in a short space of time, it is understandable that you are feeling so vulnerable at the moment. I'm glad that you are seeing your p'doc weekly and geting support. Will you be able to get a new car? insurance etc? *a nightmare on its own though!!!!

but you are NOT a reject, you may be feeling a bit lost right now, but you are amazing, you have so much strenghth (look what you ahve survived just lately even!!)... anyways, im sitting here in your corner with you,

lj

Hi Bast

While I don't have life experience with the diagnosis you have been given ..... at least not yet ..... there are many, many others on the forums here who do, either themselves personally, or someone they love and live with. You are absolutely not a "reject" .... ❣

I said "at least not yet" above, because my hubby has developed an eating disorder that has thrown out family into chaos .... although we have managed to minimise the effects of it over the last year by learning more about what he is going through, and what we can and can't do to help him with it. Unfortunately he is still in denial, and doing everything he can to conceal it, so without a diagnosis we are caught up in a holding pattern instead of receiving support and treatment.

It is very likely that there is another condition underlying and fuelling my hubby's ed. I can recognise anxiety, for sure, and the ed may be a form of trying to self-medicate MDD, certainly OCD is present, and I don't know what else ....

Our kids and I have been battling situational depression, and work hard at balancing our own lives and developing coping strategies to limit the effects of this ..... and a lot of that means pacifying hubby at the moment as we try to walk him home.

Rather than seeing a diagnosis as a judgement over your worth, please take another look ..... a diagnosis can become a to-do list with self-care and self-management instructions that helps to take the guess-work out of it. These things are not negative as such ..... they are a way of addressing the negatives to improve and focus in the positives.

MI can bring a resilience and personal strength that many others in the community don't possess, cos they haven't had to fight for it. It brings a wealth of empathy and compassion through the power of lived experience, with sensitivity and understanding that helps make the forums here go around.

Welcome to the forums @Bast. Lovely to meet you .... there are social threads here like Beer Garden and Night Shift which are chattier and you can get to know others a bit, and ask about their experiences with the same sort of diagnoses .... how they have come to terms with it and how they manage their own situation.

Take care ....

🌷💜 F&H

Hi there @Bast,

Thanks for sharing your diagnosis with the forums, how are things going since the S attempt? Are you looking after yourself and linked in with some extra support?

Hope you are taking good care of yourself after a really tough time lately,

Lunar 🙂

Hey @Bast,

I have suspected BPD. I haven't followed it up to have it formally diagnosed (moved states etc.) but elements certainly fit.

It is a scary one and there is a crappy stigma about it but you (we) aren't our diagnosis. Like @Kurra said you are Bast, you aren't a label. First and foremost you are Bast and this doesn't change you. It's useful to think of it as ways of finding strategies that work for you. Rather than trying one of the many strategies there are you can look at ones that generally work for people who have BPD or MDD or anxiety. I don't know. This is me coping with it, on another day I'm not so good about it.

You aren't a reject - there are a whole heap of us who are behind you. 🙂

Here for you mate.

Billamba 🙂

@Kurra, did you have a good self sense of self before diagnosis? Was your sense of self ever a little wobbly?

Last question @Kurra. Did you find your sense of self after your kids had left home? Thanks for your previous response too. 💜🤗

Hi Bast,

Welcome to the forums 🙂

I think you know yourself best, I would not let a label define you.

I've know a few people who have gone to a few psychiatrists and have had different diagnoses from each specialist. I also believe that they don't always get their diagnoses right and have a tendency to put people in boxes.

You know you can always get a second opinion too.

You are not a reject and I would be looking within to find some of the answers you are seaching for- not all diagnoses are right and I wish you all the best.