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A forum for survivors of CSA/SA/DV

kristinSenior Contributor24 Nov 2014, 2:26 pm AEDT

A forum for survivors of CSA/SA/DV

Dear all,

I know there are a few of us who are survivors of childhood sexual assault/sexual assault/domestic violence here on the forum. There are probably others who have not disclosed for reasons of their own (which is totally fine and understandable).

I found this forum, which seems to be US based, which is open to (English speaking) survivors everywhere as far as I can tell. I've only just found it, at the recommendation of another survivor, but what I've seen looks really good. http://pandys.org/forums/index.php?showtopic=209230

By no means am I wanting to lead people away from the SANE forum, it is fantastic for engaging about MH issues. But there are some things we really can't discuss here for fear of triggering others. Yet they need to be talked about. This seems a suitable place so I thought I'd let the rest of you know about it.

Kindest regards,

Kristin

PS @NikNik maybe you might a look too? It's been going a while and allows discussion about meds too. Not sure about health professionals.

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Alessandra1992Senior Contributor21 Dec 2014, 7:52 pm AEDT

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Absolutely true @kenny, on all points....tried telling at the time..fell on deaf ears...but have since met many fellow travellers.. Helps me to make sense that it was never my fault..

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kenny66Senior Contributor21 Dec 2014, 7:58 pm AEDT

Re: A forum for survivors of CSA/SA/DV

Yes Sandy

It can be very difficult to get over the personal blame game. Realising and accepting that you as the victim never contributes to the abuse is the key. I am not there yet.

kenny

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kristinSenior Contributor20 Jan 2015, 1:20 pm AEDT

Re: A forum for survivors of CSA/SA/DV

Hey @kenny66

The blame-game is a huge thing to counter - it becomes ingrained at so many levels it is a long painful process of recognising and countering each part in the long-term.

I found this on a site @Former-Member posted a link to. I thought yourself, @Rick , @Alessandra1992 , @shanc , @Ellie , @Mortiis and others might find it helpful/validating.

Hope for a healing journey endures...

Kindest regards,

Kristin

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kristinSenior Contributor07 Feb 2015, 10:17 am AEDT

Re: A forum for survivors of CSA/SA/DV

Hey @Rick

I don't think I replied to your post about a forum for survivors of CA (rather than CSA). It is a good question and you're right it is needed. I remember going looking after I read your post on the digest (I was struggling with posting at the time I think). I don't recall finding anything. I will ask my Twitter contacts again (I think I turned up a blank then, but it is such a stressful time of year around Xmas that I might have a better chance of finding one now si I have asked again.

Hope you are travelling a bit better too my friend. & hugs

Hope endures...

Kindest regards,

Kristin

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PeppiPattySenior Contributor07 Feb 2015, 7:24 pm AEDT

Re: A forum for survivors of CSA/SA/DV

Lovely last sentence @kenny66

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kristinSenior Contributor07 Feb 2015, 10:25 pm AEDT

Re: A forum for survivors of CSA/SA/DV

Hi @Rick

I wanted to let you know that whilst I was again asking around on Twitter about a more general survivors' forum site I noticed that @Former-Member mentioned one called Fort Refuge tonight. I think it's worth a look, and perhaps she might please tell us how she finds it? I'm guessing it must be ok if she's mentioning it.

Hope, for help and a sense of connection with others, endures...

Kind regards,

Kristin

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kristinSenior Contributor06 Apr 2015, 11:03 pm AEST

Re: A forum for survivors of CSA/SA/DV

Dear @kenny66

I hope you are travelling well at the moment my friend.

I found the Bristlecone Project today, and thought you might find it helpful to have another option when you are wanting to work on this stuff. Sometimes it helps if we don't need to cut a new path through the scrub to climb the mountain, a bit of a path or some helpful pointer - anyway, I hope it is of use.

Kindest regards,

Kristin

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