Motion - new pathways - air -sea -land -us

Hi @Former-Member thanks for writing I hope people can have a way to seek help from moderators or peer workers when they need help here ...I'm a little fuzzy how to do so or who to tag. Haven't had much luck in the past beyond the private emails to sane if distressed or feeling not ok with something going on here.

I think it's ok to speak up if ur bothered on the thread and I agree kindness is sometimes like a weakness but we need to make it safe for people to be themselves. And be vulnerable. Just my opinion.

Hey @EternalFlower ,

Good to hear your feedback. Any thoughts about how people can reach out to moderators or peer workers?

I’m really interested to hear your thoughts.

@Former-Member you are pretty great and you organise your thoughts beautifully.

I don't think care and support are any less precious for being given just when one can. We are all trying to keep ourselves afloat, and if we can spare a minute to lift up our fellows who are also trying to keep their heads above water, I think that is a worthwhile endeavour. We're all on our own journeys and the support everyone has given each other when they can spare it (and sometimes when they can't) gives me hope and joy.

Perhaps it's time we had some whimsy back in this thread. We started with the intricacies and joys of transport. Maybe we could talk about our perfect place (if such a thing exists).

When I am struggling with people, I think I would like to live on a mountain.

Sustaining myself by growing things and caring for things, but having a crate of baked beans and rum dropped off down the road once a month for those can't be bothered days. Never see a soul, just pick it up from down the drop off point. I'd have a well, a dairy goat, and I would be excellent at making mozarella. I'd have a crack at growing lentils and sorghum. Fish in the stream. Sleep in a cabin I built.

All this is a daydream. But it's one of my favourites.

@tonys It sounds like you have found a place a little like this.

@EternalFlower @StanD @Appleblossom @tyme

Where would your perfect place be?

I'm not sure what my perfect place would be @LeChuck .

It would have to have water. Warm with a cool breeze.

That's all I can think of right now 🙂 I don't want to be alone, nor do I want too many people.

Hi @Former-Member ,

I really appreciate your honesty through your post. Yes, those using the forums come from all walks of life with differing experiences, personalities, etc.

And yes, I agree RESPECT is key, hence being one of our guidelines.

At any point, if you feel something is disrespectful, you can flag it for moderators to monitor and follow-up, or you can email us directly at team@saneforums.org

Cheers, tyme

@tyme perhaps a tiny island off greece, with a very small friendly town and a villa by the sea for you...

@Appleblossom @Former-Member @Thyme ..

Thankyou for all your responses, and may I say I hope you are all in good spirits.

We re read the post that was in question. It was full of as much sunshine and good will as we could pack into it. No personal attacks. Just well intentioned support.

It was sent to a person I had strongly but politely advised on numerous occasions not to read my brand of sunshine humour or stories about how I found a bit of happiness. I tagged all of you so that you could help this person rather than me.

We can try to hide abusive words with numbers and symbols. Thats fine. But when they are directed straight at me in a personal way. Thats abuse. To make personal assumptions about a my relationship with my friend, with whom I share light hearted banter and a lot of love, and caring well thats a "personal" Kick in the teeth when I stuck my neck out to help. '

The fact that I 'very clearly' stated that I LOVE the way my friend looks was deliberately overlooked and twisted into something entirely the opposite to the friendly way it was sent.

Re @Former-Member I agree. I don't want to walk on egg shells either. I want to be in a place where I am free to paint pictures with a heathy mix of laughter joy . . . and sorrow. grey with a bigger splash of yellow.

And with adults who can be 'selective' in there reading and a little tolerant. If the post I received had been sent to a moderator instead, we would all be enjoying ourselves.

I love a difference of opinion, and a respectful debate on the forums. Minus a personally directed attack. I wonder just how many people have left quietly because of this.

Moderators can see the 'flavour' of a letter and soon tell if its malicious, A mistake, or someone hard at work doing the best they know how to help. So there should never ever be a need for personally directed anger.

We are all the products of floods, droughts, fires, pointing fingers, and orphanages. I was a big kid too . .

A little sunshine please.

We are imperfect. we won't find perfection in each other, and its so easy to pounce on someone if you looking too. If I am in the way of someone 'seeking attention', or they feel I'm steeling there oxygen then please. direct it to the bosses at sane.

Thankyou so much, for your time. Thanks to @Appleblossom. skating on thin ice. I respect and thoroughly enjoy the way you do it, tough gig mate, I love skating with you now and then but your just too quick for me and I'm old too. I hope things brighten up a bit for you @Former-Member and thankyou for the hard work you put into your letters. I always like to read your column

@tyme Thankyou for your comfort. you are a sweet person.

@EternalFlower I never stop thinking about you. every time I want to be a winger, I just think about how hard you fight. Im proud of you.

Going down to the river. pop a cork. and who know just how good tomorrow may be.

tonys m b 1

oooooo! @LeChuck . That's sounds pleasant. Can I ask, why Greece? Because if they only speak Greek, I'll have an issue. LOL

Haha @tyme the water is very blue, and the breezes warm. AND I love the food....

Is there a Moon Base 2? @tonys