Dahlia100Contributor
Severe ocd
My child suffers from severe ocd and is too scared to go to therapy (erp). She has become so depressed and it has taken away everything she enjoys.
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Severe ocd
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hanamiSenior Contributor
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Love this advice so much @NatureLover . ❤️
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NatureLoverSenior Contributor
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Aww, thanks, @hanami ❤️
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
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Hello @NatureLover , @Dahlia100 , @hanami , @Brena74 , @FloatingFeather
thank you soo much for your wonderful advice my friend
❤️
my husband was diagnosed with OCD years ago , he is doing things all the time , sometimes now it seems worse at different times
he has put locks on every window and double checks them is just one of them
he says to me " that I have some OCD too "
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hanamiSenior Contributor
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Hey @Shaz51
How does it make you feel when your husband says that to you?
❤️
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Dahlia100Contributor
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Thank you so much @NatureLover for your advice - some very helpful tips which I will really try. In the past I’ve always tried to stop the compulsions or get really upset with her and try to logically talk her out if things which know doesn’t work.
She has had SII in the past but would never go through with it but you do need to watch that I agree.
I’m really trying to work on being understanding and telling her I’m proud of her when she does something ocd would normally prevent her from doing.
Im not sure what’s best in terms of the reassurance- I know from what I’ve read reassurance can be accommodating the ocd but I can understand that when you are scared if something you would want reassurance- this confuses me a bit as I don’t know where to find that balance.
All I know is I’m trying everything I can to help her so she can function like other girls her age.
I’m really happy for you that you are able to manage your ocd. It takes a lot of courage to get it under control so you should be very proud of yourself that you have been able to overcome some of the ocd obstacles.
In terms of changing your thinking was it just the fact that you had new surroundings or did something help with this?
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NatureLoverSenior Contributor
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Sorry to hear, @Shaz51 😞
Yes, the triggers for OCD go up and down so at some times it is worse then others.
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NatureLoverSenior Contributor
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Hi @Dahlia100 🙂 Thank you for your kind words ❤️ And I'm glad something I wrote was helpful, as I was worried last night I had offered unasked advice. Which I did, but you've been kind about it!
@Dahlia100 wrote:Im not sure what’s best in terms of the reassurance- I know from what I’ve read reassurance can be accommodating the ocd but I can understand that when you are scared if something you would want reassurance- this confuses me a bit as I don’t know where to find that balance.
Regarding the reassurance, you're not accommodating the compulsion. You're getting to the underlying fear and reassuring that. Hopefully that will stop or lessen the compulsion.
@Dahlia100 wrote:She has had SII in the past but would never go through with it but you do need to watch that I agree.
Sadly, anyone can go through with it 😞
@Dahlia100 wrote:In terms of changing your thinking was it just the fact that you had new surroundings or did something help with this?
It wasn't just the new surroundings...it was exhausting hiding or pushing back against the OCD, so I just decided to stop. That meant there was less pressure on me once I accepted the OCD, so there was less stress, which meant less triggers. (I sometimes sanitise my hands when stressed, even though there isn't a germ trigger, so stress itself causes compulsions.) There was also less exhaustion once I accepted the OCD, which meant more energy for healthier activities /thinking. It's hard to explain.
Wishing you and your daughters heaps of good wishes @Dahlia100 @Brena74 ❤️
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FloatingFeatherSenior Contributor
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Hi @Shaz51,
Sorry for the delayed response - I haven't been on the Forums for a couple of days.
All good for me thanks (glad it's Friday). How's all for you? Well I hope.
FloatingFeather xx
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Brena74Contributor
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Hi @Dahlia100 ,
how are you and your daughter/family going? Has she managed to maintain or improve her progress since hospital? How about meds and/or treatment?
I was struggling when I last posted so thanks for your support (and others). I took some time out to gather my thoughts and energy to keep up the fight with OCD in our house.
it has been a rough few weeks but I am glad to say our daughter has improved a bit. Still a long way to go but gives me hope.
Sending you hugs!
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Dahlia100Contributor
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Hi @Brena74
I’m so glad to hear things are a bit better for you. Is there anything that you have done or changed to help with this ?
Unfortunately my daughter has now fully come off the medicine and we can really see that it was actually working as things are getting a lot worse again and she is very stressed and sad. She can’t see the difference though which I don’t understand.
I just want to see her happy and functional.
We are not sure what else we can do to help as we feel we have exhausted all avenues. I think it’s now up to her to want help. All the therapy can only work if she is willing to get help so we are kind of stuck and have stepped back. We can only watch things get worse again ….
Not sure what to do
