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NikNikSenior Contributor
Hi all,
Sometimes as people who want the best for people we care for, we feel a bit like this:
What can we do if the person we care for doesn't want, or think, they need help?
Join the conversation with special guests from Mind Australia
Share your experiences, your thoughts and hopefully pick up some tips.
Please welcome the Mind Australia team from the carers helpline 🙂
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GivingMickSenior Contributor
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CarersHelplineContributor
Just as a post to all, We thought we would share a poem which we feel says alot about how we can help our loved one find their way. First step is to listen
‘LISTEN’
When I ask you to listen to me
And you start giving me advice,
You have not done what I asked.
When I ask you to listen to me
And you begin to tell me ‘why’ I shouldn’t feel that way,
You are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me
And you feel you have to do something to
solve my problems,
You have failed me, strange as that may seem.
Listen! All I ask is that you listen;
Not talk, nor do – just hear me.
And I can do for myself – I’m not helpless
Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless.
When you do something for me, that I can
and need to do for myself,
You contribute to my fear and weakness.
But when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel,
No matter how irrational
Then I quit trying to convince you
And can get about the business of understanding
What’s behind this irrational feeling.
When that’s clear,
The answers are obvious and I don’t need advice.
So please listen, and just hear me, and if you
want to talk,
Wait a minute for your turn,
And I’ll listen to you
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CazzieSenior Contributor
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EagleSenior Contributor
@Cazzie
I think it's such a cliche 'stay strong' and people don't really understand the implications. We think of strength from a physcial point of view.. someone holding weight above their head and being told to stay strong and drop it!
I have redefind 'strength' as not giving up, not stopping, not losing hope... I think crying, seeking help, letting it all out IS strength.
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NikNikSenior Contributor
Hi everyone,
we're just about to wrap up. I wanted to say a massive "THANKS!" to @CarersHelpline and also a huge 'THANKS' to those who joined us tonight and shared their experiences and stories.
Truly shows we're not alone.
Wrapping up with last comments... ready... go!
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CarersHelplineContributor
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CazzieSenior Contributor
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NikNikSenior Contributor
Okay.. it's that time.. it's 8pm AESDT and time to close up shop.
Never fear - if you want to contiue the conversation, please feel free to start a new thread in the forums.
Again - a bit Thank You to you all.
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