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NikNikSenior Contributor
Hi all,
Sometimes as people who want the best for people we care for, we feel a bit like this:
What can we do if the person we care for doesn't want, or think, they need help?
Join the conversation with special guests from Mind Australia
Share your experiences, your thoughts and hopefully pick up some tips.
Please welcome the Mind Australia team from the carers helpline 🙂
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SadMumContributor
Oh @Dexy , that sounds like such an awful situation to be in.
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CazzieSenior Contributor
I'm a carer for my husband who suffers from PTSD as a result of 29 years in the NSW Police Force. When it first became obvious to me that he wasn't coping with his job and life it was in the context of an argument that I suggested he should get help to reduce his stress levels his reply was immediate and explosive. "Don't give me that s#@t! There's no such f$#%ing think as stress. That's all bulls@#t! Only soft c@#k nancy boys go off on stress."
Things were realy bad but he was in total denial. I figured the only way to reduce his stress levels was to get him away from work and the town we lived in for a while so I booked a week for two in Vanuatu and gave it to him as a Christmas present so he couldn't refuse to go. He was tense and uptight for four days and really had only just begun to relax when it was time to come home.
It took another two years and a seemingly trivial happening for him to break completely and go off on sick leave. That trivial happening was the straw that shattered his mental stability and forced him to seek help from both his GP and a counselling psychologist.
To this day I believe that had he sought help when I originally pointed out that he had problems he possibly wouldn't have snapped quite so completely but we'll never know.
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RoverContributor
Hi,
I am caring for my daughter who is in a mental health facility but has 6 hours of escorted release time each day. She was sheduled after being diagnosed with a drug induced pyschosis. Her dillusions are really bizzare and she has been in there now for over 3 weeks. She is in complete denial about her mental state (the treating team are thinking it is Biopolar) and she is playing a very good game of 'nothing is wrong with me'. She denies telling me things and writing things and asks me to lie to the doctor so she can get out. She is calmer since they changed her medication but I know her dillusions are still there. She tells me whats happening but trusts that I won't pass on this information. Her doctor believes that she needs to stay in the facility and she has a tribunal coming up very soon to arrange a discharge. The doctor said the only that he can help her is if I tell the magistrate all the things I have recorded. It will sadden me to do this as right now I am the only person she trusts.
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